"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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just give her a call?

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hi guys.
i'm writing from germany with my special problem. though i understand english pretty well i maybe do some mistakes in here. hope you don't mind ;-)

i am taking a course at another college once a week where this girl is in. we're chatting quiete often and smiles at me and makes a lot of other thinks that make me believe she hastn't at least any aversions to me. unfortunately i have to leave very quick after the course to catch my bus to the town where my "real" college is, so that it's hardly possible to meet except at the course room.

i'd like to date her, but i'm not the kind of guy that can ask her during the course with all the guys around. but fortunately i got her phone number accidently, taht means she didn't give it to me. would it be a good idea to call her anyway? just to say i would like to get to now her but i can't after the course. so let's have a drink at the weekend? what do you think?

great board btw
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I wouldn't call her.... If she doesn't know who you are, over the phone it could get REALLY awkward. You really should get her # from her. Just walk right up to her at the end of class, and tell her you gotta run but that you'd love to give her a call sometime. That's about the best way to do this. Fvck the other guys..... who cares who sees you... or try and meet up with her in the hallway where it's more neutral. I'm sure you don't need to make a mad dash for the door at the end of class. you can spare 2 minutes to say hi and grab her #
 

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I agree - do not call her without her giving it to you.

You have to approach her and ask her at some point. Take a later bus.
 

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i'd rule out that she won't know who i am at the phone..

some more details: got her number from a course partcipants list which i found on the web. so if she writes her number down there she maybe wants to be called..

i'm not sure, but i reckon she's the kind of girl that'll feel flattered if someone tries to find out her number no matter what it costs.

we chatted quiet well last time in course even though she was sitting in fron of me. when coming to a "partner-exercise" she turned round and asked whether i'd like to be her partner. after finishing that, she turned back only half way and really started to loll about in front of me. in fact the only thing that prevented me from talking to her after the class was that i had to run to the toilet. since i met her everytime before sometime later in the hallway as thought that wouldn't be a problem this time. but it was, she was already gone. maybe she just saw me rushing out the classroom, so that she wanted to follow me but didn't see where i actually went. just an idea :) she normally doesn't come out of the building for 10 minutes after class finishes. and this time she was gone after 2 minutes.
 

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Originally posted by MrD
i'd rule out that she won't know who i am at the phone..

some more details: got her number from a course partcipants list which i found on the web. so if she writes her number down there she maybe wants to be called..

i'm not sure, but i reckon she's the kind of girl that'll feel flattered if someone tries to find out her number no matter what it costs.
She'll likely think 1) you're a stalker 2) you don't have the balls to ask her for her number.

If she'd be impressed that you got her number "no matter what it costs", then risk your self-esteem and rejection by asking her in person for her number. That's far more costly than looking it up online, don't you think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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the more i think about it, the more i agree with you. the only advantage of giving her a call, is that i can come in touch with her some days earlier. but in this case time surely isn't money. ;)
 

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If you're to make a move, make it NOW. Otherwise, you just earned yourself a lady-friend.

At least you have some kind of rapport here... I say go for it, but don't put all your eggs in the same basket; she may very well say no, so be prepared.
Glück zu Dir! (my German's rusty ;) )

-Bill
 

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i meant, i can wait till tuesday, when i'll see her again, instead of calling now. these 5 more days don't matter.

@bill

danke!
 

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i did this when i was in h. school i used to get numbers from chicks and call them without asking them first.

I know it was very AFC but it worked a couple of times (most) but first i kind of made sure that the girl had liked me or atleast knew me kind of well.

altough i dont recomend it, it can work sometimes.
 

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MrD,

Do you want to bend this girl over her desk and fvck her? Does she think you have the balls to?

Have you ever poked her with your finger, touched her hand with your fingers before saying something to her, teased her, commented about your horniness, joked about her horniness?

No, no, no, no and no? Congatulations! You've found someone to play chess with! Have fun with that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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