"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Just friends : GAME OVER.

C

comic_relief

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 29, 2004
Messages
3,282
Reaction score
49
Location
Baltimore, MD
Well, when I was AFC. I would rather that than an LJBF. An LJBf lead me on to think I still had a chance when in fact I did not. That would have killed my wanting her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

L

Livingitup22

Don Juan
Joined
May 14, 2003
Messages
72
Reaction score
0
Location
Michigan, US
Shiftkey is dead-on. LJBF is case study in female rationalization. She can tell herself that she's really just trying to spare his feelings, cause she's really not a bad person. In truth, it's a subtle way to let him know that she isn't interested, and she can avoid the confrontation that could potentially occur if she told him the truth. Of course, the AFC response to LJBF, the "okay, friends that's something, I'll figure this out eventually" is a pretty good example of male rationalization.

I've grown to have a serious distaste for LJBF. I think it's become so cliched, confusing, and dishonest that it might be time for the ladies(and guys) to grow up and retire the phrase. "Look your a nice person, but I'm not just not interested " might be one good replacement phrase. It's gotten to the point where I'm couseling my friends to avoid using LJBF.
 
C

comic_relief

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 29, 2004
Messages
3,282
Reaction score
49
Location
Baltimore, MD
agreed, thinking that I could change her mind is what I thought but in reality I could not.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top