My girl broke up with me last week, stuff had been getting cloudy for a little while now. We just moved in together at the first of October. I lost my job 9 months ago and can't find a thing, even though I have an MBA and 10 years of experience. Well I was packing and found her journal. I know I should have not read it, but everyone likes poison a little. Well I found it, on 10/29 she wrote that she had given up on me b/c of my job situation and how I have become distant and unfeeling. I admit not being able to find a job has taken a little out of me, but damn. There was also tons of strange stuff written about hitting exes, etc. Bottom line this girl gave up on me and now it's time to use that as some inspiration.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Just Did A Stupid Thing That May Be The Best Thing
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- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is why marriage doesn't work anymore. When things get bad, people bail. Nobody takes for Better or Worse, if they can't do it when your dating, how will they do it when your married.
Now you know the truth of this world, you are on your own.Only family counts. The rest are strangers that you can have fun with, but cannot depend on unless they fear you or need you. It's rare you find a stranger who will love you like family.
Sorry for your pain, but you'll grow stronger from it. Good luck.
Now you know the truth of this world, you are on your own.Only family counts. The rest are strangers that you can have fun with, but cannot depend on unless they fear you or need you. It's rare you find a stranger who will love you like family.
Sorry for your pain, but you'll grow stronger from it. Good luck.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
rocket said:
Hitting Exes like pshyical or sexing them up?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Well first and foremost, my heart goes out to ya bro. I think a lot of us have been through tough times in life in which the people who we think care about us most, bail on us and hurt us most.rocket said:
Fortunately there's millions of women out there, and trust me, millions of them are better than your ex anyways. They always are.
I've said it a thousand times.. I've been in plenty of relationships and with each new one, I think the next chick is better than the last.. even if at the time I thought one of them was the best I'd ever had. In other words, there's always better out there. And you will find it.
As for the journal thing; don't look into it that much. The reality of women is that when they breakup with someone, they don't just make up excuses for you and others, but excuses for themselves as well.
Her writing that she broke up with you cause you couldn't find a job may be true, but not necessarily. And I can tell you for a fact that her saying you got 'distant' is a complete and utter lie; it was simply something she added in at the end to justify her getting rid of you. Women love sympathizing with themselves and covering up the fact that they simply just bailed on someone and can't man up to admit it.
Anyhow, none of that matters now. More importantly than any of this is that you still have what matters; yourself.
Sounds cliche and corny as all hell, but it's so true. Every time I've had a rough breakup, I've found myself again.
Time off from a LTR is SO GOOD for yourself. It allows you to concentrate on you and build your strengths without needing someone by your side. I actually LOVE this period of time, no matter how depressed I might be. I LOVE the fact that I am on my own and I can achieve whatever it is I want to do.
Because deep down you know that when you dedicate the time, you can really aspire to do whatever it is that you want. Those memories of your ex are going to be long gone in no time, and she might actually be knocking on your door when you become something greater than you ever thought you'd be. I'll always remember when my first ex left me and came back 8 months later when I was making 6 figures and on top of my game. It was comical.
But I digress.. this is your time to create a monster.. in yourself of course. This transforming period is vital to all men and I cringe to think of those men who have been stuck in relationships for 10 YEARS since high school and haven't had time to fully develop them selves as real men. CRINGE.
Look forward to this time.. it's bitter but SO sweet.