My girl broke up with me last week, stuff had been getting cloudy for a little while now. We just moved in together at the first of October. I lost my job 9 months ago and can't find a thing, even though I have an MBA and 10 years of experience. Well I was packing and found her journal. I know I should have not read it, but everyone likes poison a little. Well I found it, on 10/29 she wrote that she had given up on me b/c of my job situation and how I have become distant and unfeeling. I admit not being able to find a job has taken a little out of me, but damn. There was also tons of strange stuff written about hitting exes, etc. Bottom line this girl gave up on me and now it's time to use that as some inspiration.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just Did A Stupid Thing That May Be The Best Thing
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is why marriage doesn't work anymore. When things get bad, people bail. Nobody takes for Better or Worse, if they can't do it when your dating, how will they do it when your married.
Now you know the truth of this world, you are on your own.Only family counts. The rest are strangers that you can have fun with, but cannot depend on unless they fear you or need you. It's rare you find a stranger who will love you like family.
Sorry for your pain, but you'll grow stronger from it. Good luck.
Now you know the truth of this world, you are on your own.Only family counts. The rest are strangers that you can have fun with, but cannot depend on unless they fear you or need you. It's rare you find a stranger who will love you like family.
Sorry for your pain, but you'll grow stronger from it. Good luck.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
rocket said:
Hitting Exes like pshyical or sexing them up?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Well first and foremost, my heart goes out to ya bro. I think a lot of us have been through tough times in life in which the people who we think care about us most, bail on us and hurt us most.rocket said:
Fortunately there's millions of women out there, and trust me, millions of them are better than your ex anyways. They always are.
I've said it a thousand times.. I've been in plenty of relationships and with each new one, I think the next chick is better than the last.. even if at the time I thought one of them was the best I'd ever had. In other words, there's always better out there. And you will find it.
As for the journal thing; don't look into it that much. The reality of women is that when they breakup with someone, they don't just make up excuses for you and others, but excuses for themselves as well.
Her writing that she broke up with you cause you couldn't find a job may be true, but not necessarily. And I can tell you for a fact that her saying you got 'distant' is a complete and utter lie; it was simply something she added in at the end to justify her getting rid of you. Women love sympathizing with themselves and covering up the fact that they simply just bailed on someone and can't man up to admit it.
Anyhow, none of that matters now. More importantly than any of this is that you still have what matters; yourself.
Sounds cliche and corny as all hell, but it's so true. Every time I've had a rough breakup, I've found myself again.
Time off from a LTR is SO GOOD for yourself. It allows you to concentrate on you and build your strengths without needing someone by your side. I actually LOVE this period of time, no matter how depressed I might be. I LOVE the fact that I am on my own and I can achieve whatever it is I want to do.
Because deep down you know that when you dedicate the time, you can really aspire to do whatever it is that you want. Those memories of your ex are going to be long gone in no time, and she might actually be knocking on your door when you become something greater than you ever thought you'd be. I'll always remember when my first ex left me and came back 8 months later when I was making 6 figures and on top of my game. It was comical.
But I digress.. this is your time to create a monster.. in yourself of course. This transforming period is vital to all men and I cringe to think of those men who have been stuck in relationships for 10 YEARS since high school and haven't had time to fully develop them selves as real men. CRINGE.
Look forward to this time.. it's bitter but SO sweet.