amnbyrd
Don Juan
Me and my gf just broke up...damn I need to find a replacement asap!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just broke up
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
I guess it doesnt really matter. We both wanted it anyways and I know Im better off without her and someone better for me. We were only goin out for a few weeks anyways though breaking up always sucks.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
nope didnt get that far
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
4 weeks, u didnt **** her, and you claim to be in a relationshipo with this girl? jesus.. what has the world come to...amnbyrd said:nope didnt get that far
are you SURE it was a relationship? did she suck your **** at least?
Why? Did you burn a pot roast?! (I'M KIDDING, LADIES!)amnbyrd said:Me and my gf just broke up...damn I need to find a replacement asap!
Careful there. If you come across as desperate, you'll be in trouble.
You don't NEED a girlfriend right now. You will always need GOOD women in your life (I think we all do), but not a girlfriend. If you start thinking you NEED one, you're going to give up some things just to get one... things that you might not want to give up...Maybe even if few things you SHOULDN'T give up.
I know you're kind of kidding, but my post is just a reminder, cause sometimes when we joke, we start almost believing the joke as the truth.
See, I think the problem is (in my life, anyway) there are so few women that I spend any time with, so if I go through a relationship, and it doesn't work, it's really tough to find another GOOD woman. I've tried getting female friends, and except for a select few, I'm out of options for now, at least as far as what I look for in a healthy relationship. It sounds crass sometimes, but "the backups" seem to be few and far between. Right now I'm in a very healthy place as far as relationships go, and I just pray that I can last this summer, and keep my somewhat healthy perspective in tact.
If you're in a similar situation, good luck. I hope nothing but the best for you.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
Sir Juanalot
Senior Don Juan
In vino veritas :crackup:amnbyrd said:Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
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Oh god thats awesome!amnbyrd said:Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.