amnbyrd
Don Juan
Me and my gf just broke up...damn I need to find a replacement asap!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just broke up
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
I guess it doesnt really matter. We both wanted it anyways and I know Im better off without her and someone better for me. We were only goin out for a few weeks anyways though breaking up always sucks.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
nope didnt get that far
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
4 weeks, u didnt **** her, and you claim to be in a relationshipo with this girl? jesus.. what has the world come to...amnbyrd said:nope didnt get that far
are you SURE it was a relationship? did she suck your **** at least?
Why? Did you burn a pot roast?! (I'M KIDDING, LADIES!)amnbyrd said:Me and my gf just broke up...damn I need to find a replacement asap!
Careful there. If you come across as desperate, you'll be in trouble.
You don't NEED a girlfriend right now. You will always need GOOD women in your life (I think we all do), but not a girlfriend. If you start thinking you NEED one, you're going to give up some things just to get one... things that you might not want to give up...Maybe even if few things you SHOULDN'T give up.
I know you're kind of kidding, but my post is just a reminder, cause sometimes when we joke, we start almost believing the joke as the truth.
See, I think the problem is (in my life, anyway) there are so few women that I spend any time with, so if I go through a relationship, and it doesn't work, it's really tough to find another GOOD woman. I've tried getting female friends, and except for a select few, I'm out of options for now, at least as far as what I look for in a healthy relationship. It sounds crass sometimes, but "the backups" seem to be few and far between. Right now I'm in a very healthy place as far as relationships go, and I just pray that I can last this summer, and keep my somewhat healthy perspective in tact.
If you're in a similar situation, good luck. I hope nothing but the best for you.
amnbyrd
Don Juan
Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
Sir Juanalot
Senior Don Juan
In vino veritas :crackup:amnbyrd said:Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
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Oh god thats awesome!amnbyrd said:Im actually drunk right now and i just ran things into the ground by asking for her hot friends number...damn i know ima regret this in the morning
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.