"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gf walked out. Spider senses tingling. Looks like she's gone to my former best friends place. He currently hates me after we had a massive argument.

So two people close to me I both dislike me.....hmm format doesn't take a genius to envisage a less than ideal scenario. I told her she walks out ands that it. She did . Fvck it. I'm drunk on whisky and listening to the Pogues. Tonight is going to be hard but tomorrow will be so much better. In my heart i know it's the right thing. Just got to ride this pain and I'll be good.

"The boys on the nypd choir...and the bells are ringing out for Christmas time"


Wish me luck gents.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just think back on how you felt after previous breakups. Now what do you feel about them? Probably nothing. Just realize that with time you'll feel the same way about this one.
 
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Gf walked out. Spider senses tingling. Looks like she's gone to my former best friends place. He currently hates me after we had a massive argument.

So two people close to me I both dislike me.....hmm format doesn't take a genius to envisage a less than ideal scenario. I told her she walks out ands that it. She did . Fvck it. I'm drunk on whisky and listening to the Pogues. Tonight is going to be hard but tomorrow will be so much better. In my heart i know it's the right thing. Just got to ride this pain and I'll be good.

"The boys on the nypd choir...and the bells are ringing out for Christmas time"


Wish me luck gents.
Whatever you do, just don't talk to or see her. Any malicious action she takes is meant to get a reaction. Starve the beast.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm drunk on whisky and listening to the Pogues.
Ah, the Pogues...

Okay, it's time for Sayonara
Go on, Yankee break my heart
There's nothing left for us to say now
Even the best friends, they must part


It gets better with time dude. Have your meltdown, have your cry, break some 5hit that you won't regret to get your anger out, do whatever works for you. After you're done all that, start working on your recovery.
 

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**** man tough break.. only one cure.. get laid..
It's too raw for that. I literally couldn't look at anopther woman right now.

Got so fvcked last night to drown the pain away.

I don't like to dwell on pain., I'll get past this.
 

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Ah, the Pogues...

Okay, it's time for Sayonara
Go on, Yankee break my heart
There's nothing left for us to say now
Even the best friends, they must part


It gets better with time dude. Have your meltdown, have your cry, break some 5hit that you won't regret to get your anger out, do whatever works for you. After you're done all that, start working on your recovery.
Thank you.

Currently nursing a very strong coffeee.

Next step is shower and then I'm going to find some way to entertain myself for the day.

We live together so hopefully she will come round and collect her stuff and leave me alone.
 

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I do not envy you. Breakups take a toll on a man...especially if there is shady **** going on and especially if you LIVE together. Ugh man. Tough break...for me the real emotion/damage shows itself a couple days afterbreakup. stay strong
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stay strong brah.. one day soon she will be a distant memory.. and u will never lòok back

My last breakup i felt like she was only woman for me.. now i look back and think what the hell
 

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Next step is shower and then I'm going to find some way to entertain myself for the day.

We live together so hopefully she will come round and collect her stuff and leave me alone.
That situation always sucks. Time for you to find stuff to fill your days until she moves the fvck out. When I was waiting for my ex-wife's boyfriend to shove his wife out (so my ex could move in), I was barely at home. Spend time with people in your social circles. If you don't have a social circle, it's time to get one going. Go visit relatives, take a drive, go out of town, shoot some guns in the country, do whatever to keep yourself busy and occupied.
 
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