"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just a Quick Question

Jeff D

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I've asked several friends of mine for advice, but sadly, they've been no help as none of them would have the courage to spontaneously approach a girl they have no connection with. Connections such as mutual classes, friends, etc.

So my school day is divided into 8 periods, and after second period, I see this one girl who seems to catch my attention. She is beautiful, but I'm not sure on how to approach her. Only time I ever see her is when I'm walking from second to third period, and sometimes third to fourth. My friend's older brother told me to go up to her and ask "hey did you happen to drop this pen?", which without question, failed because she happened to pay no mind to me and answer with the most bland "no" I have ever heard. I'm not even sure if she looked at me. So the point of the initiation of this thread is to get advice on how to randomly approach a girl, and succeed.

Things you should know

- I added her on facebook, but she hasn't accepted my friend request for whatever reason.
- I'm a grade level above her's.
- I'm an introvert with those who seem to be introverted, due to the fact that they may seem to make things awkward, and an extrovert with those who seem to be extroverted.
- I'm not out of shape nor am I ugly. At least I'm not told I am. Nor am I a narcissist.
- It's Valentine's Day. Go figure.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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LearningSlowly

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Well, uh, I don't really know what she thinks of you. If she already thinks badly of you, for whatever reason, then you really don't have a chance.

Next time you see her, you should touch her arm (people can't ignore physical contact) and say, "Excuse me, I keep seeing you around but I don't know your name. I'm Jeff."

She'll tell you, you say nice to meet you and leave. Then say hi every time you see her, and if possible get into a conversation. She probably already knows your name if you added her on facebook, and she may suspect that you know hers, but she definitely won't say that.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Personality is not permanent, it's dynamic. I hate how everyone treats it like something permanent. You're not born an introvert. Just change it.
 

Jack Wealthy

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I don't know about where you live, but where I live excuse me is for trying to get past people or selling them something they don't want. We use the ultra casual "Hey."

Chances are she'll ignore you again, unless you touch her, so call it out. Talk loud too.
 

AlexLefty

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Jack Wealthy said:
I don't know about where you live, but where I live excuse me is for trying to get past people or selling them something they don't want. We use the ultra casual "Hey."

Chances are she'll ignore you again, unless you touch her, so call it out. Talk loud too.
Where do you live?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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