Most of the time there are no issues when dating someone....i can usually read girls well......except this one. I met her in class, got the number, she started calling me at night, we went out. Everything was fine and this type of behavior has gone on for about a week and a half. Heres the catch i have not showed a tremendous amount of intrest because i know that will kill hers. But sometimes she acts more intrested than others....like from day to day....its almost like she is being a little manipulative at times to make me more aware of her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just a little confusing
- Thread starter Landon
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just make sure you don't put her on a pedestal, don't chase her and have other options.SuavePlaya
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Dude you can show interest, but don't show interest in a way as if she was the last female on earth... When she does show interest one of those days just lay your game down and if she isn't interested just leave. She either is feeling you or she is just a tease one way to find out.
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The stickler to most guys who aren't AFCs, just naturals or DJs, is that we can still be afraid of rejection depending on the situation. What I mean is, we KNOW we can get the girl, but we don't want to take action too early or at the wrong time as to ruin the moment and any chances with her.
We want to make sure we make the move at a time where she has a chance to feel our vibe in its true form. Places where this may be difficult, and may hinder your progress, may be a workplace, class setting, and so forth. You feel as if, if you were at a party or bar together, you'd be able to close her no problem. But getting her on that first date is the stickler cause you dont feel like you're in a position to make that sort of move.
We want to make sure we make the move at a time where she has a chance to feel our vibe in its true form. Places where this may be difficult, and may hinder your progress, may be a workplace, class setting, and so forth. You feel as if, if you were at a party or bar together, you'd be able to close her no problem. But getting her on that first date is the stickler cause you dont feel like you're in a position to make that sort of move.
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That is exactly the way it is.....I show intrest though, i didnt mean that i didnt....i just dont show obvious (im really into you) kinda intrest, because that will kill a vibe quick.....I know shes into me....i just think it may take a little more time before her defense mechanism goes down
That is exactly the way it is.....I show intrest though, i didnt mean that i didnt....i just dont show obvious (im really into you) kinda intrest, because that will kill a vibe quick.....I know shes into me....i just think it may take a little more time before her defense mechanism goes down
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MisterMcGee
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I'm facing that same situation. I feel like sometimes just doing something, like a statement of intent (arm-hugging her and looking into her eyes, etc. or even kissing her by surprise).. but it's possible that, even though I feel she's interested, she'll pull back and where do I go from there?
I'll end up doing something like that eventually, though, so we'll see soon. ahaha
I'll end up doing something like that eventually, though, so we'll see soon. ahaha