Most of the time there are no issues when dating someone....i can usually read girls well......except this one. I met her in class, got the number, she started calling me at night, we went out. Everything was fine and this type of behavior has gone on for about a week and a half. Heres the catch i have not showed a tremendous amount of intrest because i know that will kill hers. But sometimes she acts more intrested than others....like from day to day....its almost like she is being a little manipulative at times to make me more aware of her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Just a little confusing
- Thread starter Landon
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just make sure you don't put her on a pedestal, don't chase her and have other options.SuavePlaya
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Dude you can show interest, but don't show interest in a way as if she was the last female on earth... When she does show interest one of those days just lay your game down and if she isn't interested just leave. She either is feeling you or she is just a tease one way to find out.
MisterMcGee
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The stickler to most guys who aren't AFCs, just naturals or DJs, is that we can still be afraid of rejection depending on the situation. What I mean is, we KNOW we can get the girl, but we don't want to take action too early or at the wrong time as to ruin the moment and any chances with her.
We want to make sure we make the move at a time where she has a chance to feel our vibe in its true form. Places where this may be difficult, and may hinder your progress, may be a workplace, class setting, and so forth. You feel as if, if you were at a party or bar together, you'd be able to close her no problem. But getting her on that first date is the stickler cause you dont feel like you're in a position to make that sort of move.
We want to make sure we make the move at a time where she has a chance to feel our vibe in its true form. Places where this may be difficult, and may hinder your progress, may be a workplace, class setting, and so forth. You feel as if, if you were at a party or bar together, you'd be able to close her no problem. But getting her on that first date is the stickler cause you dont feel like you're in a position to make that sort of move.
Very Right
That is exactly the way it is.....I show intrest though, i didnt mean that i didnt....i just dont show obvious (im really into you) kinda intrest, because that will kill a vibe quick.....I know shes into me....i just think it may take a little more time before her defense mechanism goes down
That is exactly the way it is.....I show intrest though, i didnt mean that i didnt....i just dont show obvious (im really into you) kinda intrest, because that will kill a vibe quick.....I know shes into me....i just think it may take a little more time before her defense mechanism goes down
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MisterMcGee
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I'm facing that same situation. I feel like sometimes just doing something, like a statement of intent (arm-hugging her and looking into her eyes, etc. or even kissing her by surprise).. but it's possible that, even though I feel she's interested, she'll pull back and where do I go from there?
I'll end up doing something like that eventually, though, so we'll see soon. ahaha
I'll end up doing something like that eventually, though, so we'll see soon. ahaha