"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Junior year is starting in 2 days, and I need a head start

arodinpinstripes

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Alrite, my first day of junior year is on tuesday and I refuse to go ANOTHER year w/o getting any. Every year it's the same thing. I hang out with the girls I like but it never goes anywhere. I am very outgoing and I have no trouble making friends. Im on the football team and I get out alot. I know my issue isn't being to shy or unpopular but I can never seem to land a chick. Im probably not the best looking guy

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cf...ofile&friendID=8225053&Mytoken=20050828170827

but I since I have enough friends and can manage to flirt on occasion I don't think my looks are the problem.
I am more than aquainted with all the girls in my grade and the grade below me as well as alot of the seniors. For some reason though I always seem to get labled as a friend and just the funny guy.

How can I shed my funny friend guy image and make this year a success?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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NYC Dude

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I'll beg to differ with bluelemond. You don't want to shed your funny guy image, because that is a great way to get the attention from girls. Instead, focus on being able to change that funny guy image in a second into that of a confident, collected man when you start to go in for the kill. Make that the girls you flirt with know that there can be more to it than just flirting, make your objective known, otherwise they won't see anything past a funny friend who is fun to be around.
 

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i agree... being funny gets u big points however its up to you to use those for your cause. being funny alone will make you a cool friend. First pick out your quarry and approach her, you could just be friends but taht takes care of the first step. Next time you flirt with her, give her the inpression that you are doing it for a reason...maybe even talk to her about it. You could be like "hey listen...we have been friends for a while but its eating me up because i only have half of u. i want to be more than just your friend...so i was thinking...would it be cool if we did something sometime?" Or if your in it just for sex go get her drunk off her ass.
 

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I keep on seeing people posting "You can't talk, you have to be serious, you must be mysterious, etc etc".


I am nowhere near the DJ status of some people on this board, but this sounds wrong too me. If your personality is being the funny guy, then go with it. I used to try and act all serious and stuff, but it sucked. Why? Because I wasn't being who I am.

Be who you are bro, and if the bitches cannot appreciate that then fuck 'em.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Dragonemperor
thas wut hes trying to do....hehehe
Haha, so yeah... that makes this a win/win situation. :woo:
 

arodinpinstripes

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Thanks for the help so far and keep it coming, first day is tommarow. I've been reading alot and my lack of Kino could be an issue. We'll see.
 

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get that serious look in ur eyes and you'll be mysterious and they'll be comin'.
 
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