"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Junior year is starting in 2 days, and I need a head start

arodinpinstripes

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Alrite, my first day of junior year is on tuesday and I refuse to go ANOTHER year w/o getting any. Every year it's the same thing. I hang out with the girls I like but it never goes anywhere. I am very outgoing and I have no trouble making friends. Im on the football team and I get out alot. I know my issue isn't being to shy or unpopular but I can never seem to land a chick. Im probably not the best looking guy

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cf...ofile&friendID=8225053&Mytoken=20050828170827

but I since I have enough friends and can manage to flirt on occasion I don't think my looks are the problem.
I am more than aquainted with all the girls in my grade and the grade below me as well as alot of the seniors. For some reason though I always seem to get labled as a friend and just the funny guy.

How can I shed my funny friend guy image and make this year a success?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NYC Dude

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I'll beg to differ with bluelemond. You don't want to shed your funny guy image, because that is a great way to get the attention from girls. Instead, focus on being able to change that funny guy image in a second into that of a confident, collected man when you start to go in for the kill. Make that the girls you flirt with know that there can be more to it than just flirting, make your objective known, otherwise they won't see anything past a funny friend who is fun to be around.
 

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i agree... being funny gets u big points however its up to you to use those for your cause. being funny alone will make you a cool friend. First pick out your quarry and approach her, you could just be friends but taht takes care of the first step. Next time you flirt with her, give her the inpression that you are doing it for a reason...maybe even talk to her about it. You could be like "hey listen...we have been friends for a while but its eating me up because i only have half of u. i want to be more than just your friend...so i was thinking...would it be cool if we did something sometime?" Or if your in it just for sex go get her drunk off her ass.
 

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I keep on seeing people posting "You can't talk, you have to be serious, you must be mysterious, etc etc".


I am nowhere near the DJ status of some people on this board, but this sounds wrong too me. If your personality is being the funny guy, then go with it. I used to try and act all serious and stuff, but it sucked. Why? Because I wasn't being who I am.

Be who you are bro, and if the bitches cannot appreciate that then fuck 'em.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheNewGuy

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Originally posted by Dragonemperor
thas wut hes trying to do....hehehe
Haha, so yeah... that makes this a win/win situation. :woo:
 

arodinpinstripes

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Thanks for the help so far and keep it coming, first day is tommarow. I've been reading alot and my lack of Kino could be an issue. We'll see.
 

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get that serious look in ur eyes and you'll be mysterious and they'll be comin'.
 
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