"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jumping the Gun (Going out TOO fast)

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Well, my strategy of hiring models to photoshoot in lieu of asking them out on dates (at a similar overall expense) is backfiring: it's working TOO good. I just had to cancel a shoot for later.

I now meet girls who literally in their first text are confirming our date, and then they sort of stalk me a little. It makes them seem overeager. See the power of offering them value?

Some say to only use the phone to set up dates, but this can be taken to an extreme. The problem I'm seeing is probably one that us guys often make as we chase tail: not establishing rapport. There is something unsettling about confirming a date with someone who you haven't even really had a conversation with. I want to get to like them first, get to be excited to get a text from them. This usually takes a few days, and maybe seeing them one more time.

If there was one thing that made my last relationship work for so long, it's that we always had a fun, romantic dialog. Even when we broke up, and then when she came back to me, it was romantic. Many girls I find either aren't literate, are too business like, aren't romantic or aren't interested, and then I can't establish that dialog. If the relationship is physically chalk full of sex, the texting which ultimately unleashes those experiences can be powerful and exciting if done correctly.

Therefore, remember that when you pursue girls you should attempt to establish rapport before trying to confirm a date.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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