"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kraytkiller

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So. Two girls want me bad, they're both kinds who would want exclusive LTRs. In a position to start messing around with both -- and I will. That's going to influence my final decision on who to choose, if I have to, as there are benefits to both, but I don't know. I'm confused as to who to pick.

The real question I'm hoping to have answered is what would be the best way to pick one girl, letting down the other, while at the same time maintaining the attraction in the girl I let down over a long time?

I want to have one of the girl as a, I guess, exclusive relationship, if I can't make it non-exclusive, while at the same time having the other one sitting behind me, ready to go out if I drop the first one.

I mean alot to both of them

Selfish, yeah. But. **** it. Human weakness, and all.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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kraytkiller said:
So. Two girls want me bad, they're both kinds who would want exclusive LTRs. In a position to start messing around with both -- and I will. That's going to influence my final decision on who to choose, if I have to, as there are benefits to both, but I don't know. I'm confused as to who to pick.
Really, the best choice is to see both of them non-exclusively (without hiding it.) You don't have to pick, you said it yourself that there's benefits to both of them.

If they're both attracted to you, and you don't make a big deal out of it, it'll work.

The real question I'm hoping to have answered is what would be the best way to pick one girl, letting down the other, while at the same time maintaining the attraction in the girl I let down over a long time?
Picking just one won't kill the interest of the other, it'll make the one you aren't dating jealous, which usually make them want you more. If you were dating both of them, they'd both be fighting for your attention.

If you don't date them both, and just pick one, it won't kill the attraction the other one has for you - at least not for a while.

If you're in a relationship with one, even if the other girl is attracted to you, you have to expect her to move on with her life if she comes across another guy she is attracted to.

I want to have one of the girl as a, I guess, exclusive relationship, if I can't make it non-exclusive, while at the same time having the other one sitting behind me, ready to go out if I drop the first one.
Just keep acting alpha, DJ, suave, and so on. Don't turn into a chump in the relationship. Keep doing what works.

The best way to keep a relationship healthy is by being willing to walk away.
 

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Remember that neither of them in an LTR is also an option, mess around with both if you want to, but this isn't some Tila Tequilla sh!t where you have to pick one in the end to have an LTR with.
 

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Thanks for all your replies/advice. I suppose I'll just mess around with both of them and see how it goes -- and if they ask I'll tell the truth and treat it like it's no problem.

Not sure that'll work on one of the girls before though -- an innocent one who has barely done anything before. She might end up feeling betrayed. But we'll see.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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