Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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kraytkiller

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So. Two girls want me bad, they're both kinds who would want exclusive LTRs. In a position to start messing around with both -- and I will. That's going to influence my final decision on who to choose, if I have to, as there are benefits to both, but I don't know. I'm confused as to who to pick.

The real question I'm hoping to have answered is what would be the best way to pick one girl, letting down the other, while at the same time maintaining the attraction in the girl I let down over a long time?

I want to have one of the girl as a, I guess, exclusive relationship, if I can't make it non-exclusive, while at the same time having the other one sitting behind me, ready to go out if I drop the first one.

I mean alot to both of them

Selfish, yeah. But. **** it. Human weakness, and all.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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kraytkiller said:
So. Two girls want me bad, they're both kinds who would want exclusive LTRs. In a position to start messing around with both -- and I will. That's going to influence my final decision on who to choose, if I have to, as there are benefits to both, but I don't know. I'm confused as to who to pick.
Really, the best choice is to see both of them non-exclusively (without hiding it.) You don't have to pick, you said it yourself that there's benefits to both of them.

If they're both attracted to you, and you don't make a big deal out of it, it'll work.

The real question I'm hoping to have answered is what would be the best way to pick one girl, letting down the other, while at the same time maintaining the attraction in the girl I let down over a long time?
Picking just one won't kill the interest of the other, it'll make the one you aren't dating jealous, which usually make them want you more. If you were dating both of them, they'd both be fighting for your attention.

If you don't date them both, and just pick one, it won't kill the attraction the other one has for you - at least not for a while.

If you're in a relationship with one, even if the other girl is attracted to you, you have to expect her to move on with her life if she comes across another guy she is attracted to.

I want to have one of the girl as a, I guess, exclusive relationship, if I can't make it non-exclusive, while at the same time having the other one sitting behind me, ready to go out if I drop the first one.
Just keep acting alpha, DJ, suave, and so on. Don't turn into a chump in the relationship. Keep doing what works.

The best way to keep a relationship healthy is by being willing to walk away.
 

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Remember that neither of them in an LTR is also an option, mess around with both if you want to, but this isn't some Tila Tequilla sh!t where you have to pick one in the end to have an LTR with.
 

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Thanks for all your replies/advice. I suppose I'll just mess around with both of them and see how it goes -- and if they ask I'll tell the truth and treat it like it's no problem.

Not sure that'll work on one of the girls before though -- an innocent one who has barely done anything before. She might end up feeling betrayed. But we'll see.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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