Juggle Your Way To Becoming The Prize

[LJC]

So we've all read the posts from the masters, or if you're new to this site, you will eventually. We all know about Pook's "Kill That Desperation" post. We are familiar with the concept of being "the prize". Although it hasn't been my style to step on any guru toes here thus far, I do have the freedom to slightly disagree and offer alternative options, perhaps which can be used injunction of all of those other great posts. So on the topic of killing desperation, I believe there is a much more simple approach than the radical altering of beliefs any hopeless newbie must endure to become cured.

The truth of the matter is that becoming the type of person worthy enough of being anyone's prize, we do have to have some sort of rational basis to back these beliefs up once in a while. You can only go for so long thinking positive thoughts before the reality of your situation gets to you; before you eventually believe you're lying to yourself. Because lets face it. You're going to fail, no matter how true and hard you convince yourself you're the prize, until you actually succeed a few times and truly believe it.

What's the quickest way to do this? The answer is juggling women. You simply do not have the capacity to be desperate when you have too many good options to chose from. Yes, desperation is a frame of mind, but it becomes that way because of circumstances. No one become desperate in the mind when they have so much to chose from in real life. If you can change the circumstances, your mind will follow. And it's easy to do.

You do it by eliminating the importance of a date. Forget about making the great impression. Forget about the perfect place to go. Forget all about the idea that you want this girl to be your girlfriend or bed buddy. You're new goal is to simply get the hell out of the house and burn a few hours doing something a little fun. Meet people for the sake of meeting people and let these ladies know that's your intention. F-ck dinner and a movie. Go play air hockey instead. Do the random and off-cuff things you would be willing to do with anyone, men or women, to pass some time and have a few laughs. Expect nothing more! What if they just want to be friends? F-ck it, cool! More lady friends, more social proof. By doing this, you give the impression you aren't desperate and intense when it comes to dating. You just want to unwind and have a little innocent fun. Women are 10 times more willing to meet up with a guy like that, than a man who is seeking love, commitment and romance, even though those are things they wish to have.

When you can establish the ability to keep in touch and randomly go out with several women for low key, casual and no expectations kind of "dates", you'll find yourself struggling more with your schedule than your desperation. In fact, you'll start rejecting women because of it. When you reach that point, reread Pook's "Kill That Desperation" post and see what it does to you then. I'll bet you $100 it will be far more than just a thoughtful revelation.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo LJC,


Interesting viewpoint.

I think I understand a little of the concept you have presented. What you're suggesting is treating chicks like anybody else. And making plans to do the things YOU like, not necessarily things that will IMPRESS a woman or give her the "he's asking me out on a date" mindset.

But the thing is:

How does one actually accomplish this without "eating his heart out". How can a guy ask out a fine @ss babe and NOT think of it as a chance to (eventually) GET SOME?

Remember, one reason why a lot of guys come to this site is because they are having SERIOUS trouble getting the babe, OR the kinds of babes they really want.

Although I can see some of the wisdom in what you have said, I still find it hard to see how this will help guys who are more emotionally out of control (see----guys MORE prone to Oneitis).

Wouldn't this tactic be at least a little like a guy NEEDLESSLY teasing himself. Because hey, with all the Attention wh0res running around her these days, I can get teased for free. No need for me to go ASKING for it. lol

Wouldn't the guy HAVE to make SOME type of romantic overture towards these women? And if so, when?

I'm understand more and more each day the value of learning to stay in control of my emotions, but how far should a guy have to go in accomplishing this?

I guess what I'm asking is ----Do you really think it's possible for a guy to REALLY go on a DESIRELSS DATE?


Or am I missing your overall point?



Discuss please.








Peace...one day.

 

[LJC]

Making it almost desireless, as you say, is exactly the advantage.

Look at it this way. In my experience, the more attractive the women, the more dates they have likely been on. And people who date plenty naturally have plenty of horror stories to share about dating. Many times, they have so many horror stories that they are almost turned off by dating all together, hence become much more selective. Almost too selective.

By appearing to be desireless, you can draw them out of that shell. Sometimes it's not about getting a woman to fall all over you with interest. Sometimes it's as simple as getting them to take a leap of faith.

When it is innocent and playful, your schedule will fill up, if you're doing it right. When you're tight on time and these women actually enjoy your company, they compete more for it. And they sometimes become very brazin and forthcoming in an effort to get it.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Ahhhhh, I see.


Good point. The trick is for us to ACTUALLY do the internal work and be in control of OURSELVES emotionally. And once this is acheived, this juggling technique you have offered us SHOULD work like a charm. lol

Hey, by the way. Your views on this reminds me of that movie THE TAO OF STEVE. It's a movie about a regular joe who managed to get ALL the fine women by being zen-like in his ability to show DESIRELESSNESS.

If you haven't seen it already, I'd bet you'd get a real kick out of it.





Peace...one day.

 

[LJC]

...The trick is for us to ACTUALLY do the internal work and be in control of OURSELVES emotionally. And once this is acheived, this juggling technique you have offered us SHOULD work like a charm. lol

Well, the trick in it all is to prevent the woman from making all of the sexual decisons. Most guys try to make moves at the first given opportunity, which puts a woman in a position to bluntly accept or decline. But when a woman feels something for a man who has choices, she will make an effort to induce him to make such moves because she has already made up her mind.

The point isn't so much to get a grip on yourself as it is to flirt with getting her to act, which is something they will do when they feel they don't completely have your attention.

In essence, by focusing on several women, each woman will have more time to focus on you instead of you on each of them. And when they start to do things that seem like they are competing for your attention, you can then easily make your moves and get much further with them.

I haven't seen that movie, but I'll look for it. I'm sure I'll like it.

 

[realsmoothie]

Great movie, I liked it a lot. A little bit of the typical "being a don juan is cool, but doesn't find you true love", though... watch out.

See Rodger Dodger, too.