LJC
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So we've all read the posts from the masters, or if you're new to this site, you will eventually. We all know about Pook's "Kill That Desperation" post. We are familiar with the concept of being "the prize". Although it hasn't been my style to step on any guru toes here thus far, I do have the freedom to slightly disagree and offer alternative options, perhaps which can be used injunction of all of those other great posts. So on the topic of killing desperation, I believe there is a much more simple approach than the radical altering of beliefs any hopeless newbie must endure to become cured.
The truth of the matter is that becoming the type of person worthy enough of being anyone's prize, we do have to have some sort of rational basis to back these beliefs up once in a while. You can only go for so long thinking positive thoughts before the reality of your situation gets to you; before you eventually believe you're lying to yourself. Because lets face it. You're going to fail, no matter how true and hard you convince yourself you're the prize, until you actually succeed a few times and truly believe it.
What's the quickest way to do this? The answer is juggling women. You simply do not have the capacity to be desperate when you have too many good options to chose from. Yes, desperation is a frame of mind, but it becomes that way because of circumstances. No one become desperate in the mind when they have so much to chose from in real life. If you can change the circumstances, your mind will follow. And it's easy to do.
You do it by eliminating the importance of a date. Forget about making the great impression. Forget about the perfect place to go. Forget all about the idea that you want this girl to be your girlfriend or bed buddy. You're new goal is to simply get the hell out of the house and burn a few hours doing something a little fun. Meet people for the sake of meeting people and let these ladies know that's your intention. F-ck dinner and a movie. Go play air hockey instead. Do the random and off-cuff things you would be willing to do with anyone, men or women, to pass some time and have a few laughs. Expect nothing more! What if they just want to be friends? F-ck it, cool! More lady friends, more social proof. By doing this, you give the impression you aren't desperate and intense when it comes to dating. You just want to unwind and have a little innocent fun. Women are 10 times more willing to meet up with a guy like that, than a man who is seeking love, commitment and romance, even though those are things they wish to have.
When you can establish the ability to keep in touch and randomly go out with several women for low key, casual and no expectations kind of "dates", you'll find yourself struggling more with your schedule than your desperation. In fact, you'll start rejecting women because of it. When you reach that point, reread Pook's "Kill That Desperation" post and see what it does to you then. I'll bet you $100 it will be far more than just a thoughtful revelation.
The truth of the matter is that becoming the type of person worthy enough of being anyone's prize, we do have to have some sort of rational basis to back these beliefs up once in a while. You can only go for so long thinking positive thoughts before the reality of your situation gets to you; before you eventually believe you're lying to yourself. Because lets face it. You're going to fail, no matter how true and hard you convince yourself you're the prize, until you actually succeed a few times and truly believe it.
What's the quickest way to do this? The answer is juggling women. You simply do not have the capacity to be desperate when you have too many good options to chose from. Yes, desperation is a frame of mind, but it becomes that way because of circumstances. No one become desperate in the mind when they have so much to chose from in real life. If you can change the circumstances, your mind will follow. And it's easy to do.
You do it by eliminating the importance of a date. Forget about making the great impression. Forget about the perfect place to go. Forget all about the idea that you want this girl to be your girlfriend or bed buddy. You're new goal is to simply get the hell out of the house and burn a few hours doing something a little fun. Meet people for the sake of meeting people and let these ladies know that's your intention. F-ck dinner and a movie. Go play air hockey instead. Do the random and off-cuff things you would be willing to do with anyone, men or women, to pass some time and have a few laughs. Expect nothing more! What if they just want to be friends? F-ck it, cool! More lady friends, more social proof. By doing this, you give the impression you aren't desperate and intense when it comes to dating. You just want to unwind and have a little innocent fun. Women are 10 times more willing to meet up with a guy like that, than a man who is seeking love, commitment and romance, even though those are things they wish to have.
When you can establish the ability to keep in touch and randomly go out with several women for low key, casual and no expectations kind of "dates", you'll find yourself struggling more with your schedule than your desperation. In fact, you'll start rejecting women because of it. When you reach that point, reread Pook's "Kill That Desperation" post and see what it does to you then. I'll bet you $100 it will be far more than just a thoughtful revelation.
