Judge this comment i gave a girl i dated

[djthiago1]

There was a girl i was dating some time ago that dropped me and i was thinking about the the stuff i said during our last date, and one of them stood out to me. She said she always had done the dumping with all the guys she's been with, and i came back with 'so youre telling me im gonna be the first one to ever drop you?' she didnt answer, and changed the subject.

How bad was this comment?

 

[GrowingPains]

I mean.. it was just unnecessary and a bit unnatural.

I find that trying to be c&f is cringey. And you'll probably have to have many more failed attempts before it becomes natural and actually funny. Trial by fire. Not a huge deal, just a failure on the way to success I guess.

 

[djthiago1]

I mean.. it was just unnecessary and a bit unnatural.

I find that trying to be c&f is cringey. And you'll probably have to have many more failed attempts before it becomes natural and actually funny. Trial by fire. Not a huge deal, just a failure on the way to success I guess.

Yeah, i thought it was kinda dumb later too, at least im seeing my mistakes right

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I find being funny is a good gauge of her interest and her personality. With a playful attitude I think there's nothing wrong with what you said. You did allude to a breakup but it's more or less teasing. If I can't tease a woman and i feel like I'm walking on eggshells then I get turned off and dip. If I tease and she teases back then I'm interested. I enjoy the playful banter and being uninhibited with each other.

 

[lamath]

Her saying that was close to a redflag in my book. Again depends how she said it but i cant see many way where she can say this and not be an entitled biatch.
So imo you should have said what you said and then disappear like a ghost afterward.

Dont see this as what you said but as what she said to make you lose interest.

 

[djthiago1]

I find being funny is a good gauge of her interest and her personality. With a playful attitude I think there's nothing wrong with what you said. You did allude to a breakup but it's more or less teasing. If I can't tease a woman and i feel like I'm walking on eggshells then I get turned off and dip. If I tease and she teases back then I'm interested. I enjoy the playful banter and being uninhibited with each other.

Yeah, i tease them a lot too, but this just sounded kinda negative, idk. She was a party girl who hung around with a dozen gay dudes, so our falling apart could have had a thousand bigger reasons.

 

[redskinsfan92]

If she had higher interest one sentence wouldn't end it.

 

[djthiago1]

If she had higher interest one sentence wouldn't end it.

Thats not the point, its evaluate the comment not the relationship.

 

[redskinsfan92]

Thats not the point, its evaluate the comment not the relationship.

You already know it was a stupid comment. What was your mindset that made you say that?

 

[Serenity]

How bad? I chuckled, comment approved. Exactly the type of troll comment I'd make to my wife.

 

[djthiago1]

You already know it was a stupid comment. What was your mindset that made you say that?

Idk, i had to come up with something, so it just fell from heaven and rolled off my tongue.

 

[djthiago1]

How bad? I chuckled, comment approved. Exactly the type of troll comment I'd make to my wife.

I thought it was gonna be funny too, but idk, maybe it was too early for me to joke like that.

 

[Serenity]

I thought it was gonna be funny too, but idk, maybe it was too early for me to joke like that.

Depends how much you care. If she takes it that seriously then she can't possibly be good relationship material anyways. Good sh!t test you threw there, it worked.

 

[devilkingx2]

That was a great line, I laughed. Her saying what she said is a red flag, sounds like she's either high maintenance or the kind of girl who gets bored and drops a guy when she finds a shiny new one.

 

[derby1]

i thought it was brilliant , straight out the patrice o neil handbook

 

[djthiago1]

That was a great line, I laughed. Her saying what she said is a red flag, sounds like she's either high maintenance or the kind of girl who gets bored and drops a guy when she finds a shiny new one.

Possible, she was pretty addicted to parties and nightclubs, was extremelly leftist and hung around with a gay crew.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

How bad was this comment?

It could have been fine, even accepted as a playful tease. I wouldn't worry about it.

If you over think every thing that didn't work, you'll end up paralyzed.

 

[manfrombelow]

OP, you did NOTHING WRONG.

She had a sh!tty attitude by saying a sh!tty line, so you put her in check. Don't worry about it. You did nothing wrong, I repeat.

 

[Barrister]

Her original comment is actually the larger issue because it’s completely unnecessary and shows off her true nature. The response was fine.

 

[Steel_Neurons]

Yeah, I thought it was quite funny too. Hard to judge without seeing the interaction but she sounds like she was humourless/up herself.