"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ju Jitsu is meh in real life

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dust 2 Dust

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Concealed carry permit has come in handy many times. A group of drunk rednecks tried to start with me and probably gang rape my date in a parking lot until they saw I was packing heat. Changed their tune real quick.
 

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Go to tactical gun range instead. Guns win everytime over some "fights going to the ground bro"
Guns win every time...from a distance. The FBI's minimum safe distance is something like 18 feet. And that is for a trained fbi agent. It's not winning when you get stabbed before the other guy bleeds out.

And furthermore, if I for some reason had to carry a gun, I would make the study of grappling a top priority in my life. Lose a wrestling match over your own gun, and that is the end of you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Concealed carry permit has come in handy many times. A group of drunk rednecks tried to start with me and probably gang rape my date in a parking lot until they saw I was packing heat. Changed their tune real quick.
Try that in NY or NJ.. I wish you luck and hope you have a good lawyer. In CT, not that bad though. We give the CCP out like candy.
 

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I was thinking about going to one opening up down the street, would prefer an "MMA" one that has students fighting in Real matches locally, but it's a little too far. Tony Ferguson (Padilla) is pretty inspiring. Still, if he's up against a trained person 50lbs heavier it would be kinda bad like here:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You really need to add muay thai to ju jitsu training so you'd have the knowledge on how to defend yourself both on your feet as well as on your back when in take down mode. Personally, my favorate move is when they throw the punch, grab their arm, turn it back, hyper-extend it and then a palm punch into the solarplex. That usually disables them enough to neutralize the situation. If you go for the throat, you could kill the person. In this day and age, the police and DA would say you used excessive force not warranted for the situation. Obviously, if your life is in danger, a sweep to knock the dude down, hyper-extend the arm to dislocate, then a swift punch to the center of the throat. If one doesn't want to do too much damage, then it can be an open jab where the space between your thumb and index finger reside to ensure neutralizing the actor, but not causing any major internal bleeding or breathing issues.
Yes I want to pick up Muy Thai. I will in the future. The gyms are not as popular as BJJ gyms in my area though. Thanks for the fight tips man.
 

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love this guy check him out and tell me what you think
I would had jabbed to the right, then the left, center and an fake upper-cut only to jab again into his side. Then, right into the face with my left after contact. But hey, that's just me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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keep in mind most "citizens" are not trained ! So you have to use precautions of course
Yes, I agree. I stated on how I'd neutralize a person w/o doing serious bodily harm to them. I live in Bridgeport, CT, and in Hartford, CT prior. I've had to hand myself on more than a few times. I've been detained due to excessive force before. Luckily the actors either had a concealed weapon of some sort or were so high on drugs one would have no choice but to use excessive force to neutralize them.

As always, training is important for all. However, unless the person is a trained fighter, holding a deadily weapon or is high on meth; it shouldn't be too hard to neutralize a person. More than half don't even know how to throw a punch; let alone defend themselves from one. Most people go for the head, but with any basic training, a person would know to go for the largest part of the body... The chest, back or a combo of chest along with a sweep of the leg to take them down. After that, it's all over. At worst case scenario, one can throw a punch and then knee the dude in the groin; then lights out when he's on his knees.

Most fights only last a few seconds anyway when it's experience vs none.
 

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If you end up in a standing guillotine, his nuts are easily grabbed. A lot of BJJ makes no sense to me. Letting people get within arm's reach of you, and STAYING there, willfully, is a big no-no in my book. Too many bad things can happen, way too fast, from too many angles. Far better to "make space' (any way that you can or have to) is a far better answer. The gun is an even better answer, as long as you also have un-armed abilities to go with it, and know how to smash people with it, too. Well over 100 million adults in the US now have the option of concealed carry. If you do and you choose not to, you're a fool.
 
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