"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jophil. Must read especially for Master DJ's.

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F*CK....

WHY does cancer always take the best people, while the worst seem to live forever? Hellooo, God? Can we get back Jophil? You can have D!ck Cheney!

Seriously, he left us far too soon. Dude was a class act and his insight was one of the reasons I frequented this forum, his absence is already palpable. I know he's in a better place but my own selfish take is "this sucks!".

Jophil, wherever you are, know that you've made a world of difference to a lot of young minds, it is there where your essence will live on and spread like spiritual wildfire, because nothing ever truly dies - there is only transmission and transformation.

Whenever I find myself in a position of guidance, your persona will be one of the things I use as reference. Sort of like "What Would Jesus Do", without the religious fanaticism.

God speed brother - to say you will be missed is a terrible understatement. :(
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JoPhil's essence is alive and well. His legacy is one of tolerance with your Brothers' perception, while having the patience to explain to him yours.

That's how he and I went from a friendship to a kinship.
 

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Boilermaker said:
I disagree. I think he would have wanted to give a farewell to his brothers. This site was an important part of his life.

He probably didn't have time. Probably had to spend his last days in a hospital bed, reflecting us on occasion.
Yeah, you may be right, considering he had been gone about six weeks before we found out. Or he may have wanted to avoid any display of pity or emotion. Who can say?

In any case, the forum is definitely poorer without him.
 

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zekko said:
Yeah, you may be right, considering he had been gone about six weeks before we found out. Or he may have wanted to avoid any display of pity or emotion. Who can say?

In any case, the forum is definitely poorer without him.
I can say. Once he was admitted to the hospital, he never got out.

He's still the man.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Thanks to 5Strings for receiving and delivering this news to the community. Though devastating, it was good for the community to know they've lost one of the finest contributor. Jophil will greatly be missed.
 

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I'm shocked to read this. It's weird that whenever I thought of Jophil I think of 5string as well. Then 5string brings this sad news.

Well, Dear Jophil I'm sure you've given me some sort of advice in this forum. If I had known that you would be taken from us with such a short notice I would've picked your brain for more words of wisdom. Thanks for touching our lives.

To My SS Brethren
How shall we honor our fallen hero? 5string perhaps you should mail these pages to his girl just to let her understand how many lives he touched with his words.
I dedicate this song to him http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DrBLqp-s__o
 
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Wow this svcks, what a shock.

Jophil had some deep and to the point comments on how women thought. Great advice all around. I used to do what Zunder did and search for just his posts and read just those.

I vote we somehow put together a Jophil best posts thread or something. This guy was one of the best in both knowledge, life experience and character.

This is sad. Rest In Peace my friend. :(
 

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Franky Four Fingers said:
Wow this svcks, what a shock.

Jophil had some deep and to the point comments on how women thought. Great advice all around. I used to do what Zunder did and search for just his posts and read just those.

I vote we somehow put together a Jophil best posts thread or something. This guy was one of the best in both knowledge, life experience and character.

This is sad. Rest In Peace my friend. :(
Agreed with all on the thread. Amazing the positive influence that Jophil had as he was a shining light to me also
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jophil will live here forever as a legend.

Rock on Jo! :rockon:
 

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He will be missed. Always offered great wisdom, wit, and intelligence.

R.I.P. Jophil.
 

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So, is this the first comfirmed death on this site?
 

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Havent posted or visited the forum in quite some time. Something inside me told me to visit the forum today. Not exactly what i was expecting to see!

Im shocked! Surprisingly even more shaken up about this than i would have expected.

Over the years, I never knew of Jophils condition. Yet we had in many personal conversations about our lives. Reminds you of what is important and what we THINK is important.

Much love brother, Im sure youre dancin' !
 

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This made me sad despite never having met him, and I just wanted to second everything else mentioned here. I'd say its rare to meet mentors (or people even capable of it) these days and god knows there's too little sage advice being passed down on the guy side of things.

This is why i think he'll be missed on this forum. He offered nothing but useful advice to me when I was going through a bad break-up and learning a lot of things the hard way. I'd raise a metaphorical glass to jophil's memory any day of the week. Condolences to your loved ones and family, rest in peace brother.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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john was nice enough to give me some advice about relocation to AU. This community, and others will be less now that he is gone.

Thanks buddy for the advice, and I wish you could have been around longer =(
 

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Jophil was one of those rare guys who could give you good advice and not make you think he was talking down to you. He deserves all the kudos he's been getting here.
 

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Its weird....

I have one of the worst days of my life I am broken down.....

So I resort to DJ forums I have not been in a while......

How can I feel pity for myself when ones life has been robbed...


FTW......

Thanks guys for always been supporting and for advise its like a litlle brotherhood here...

Much love guys sorry for my absence sorry Jophil...You always had great advise!
 

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May his soul rest in peace. It's strange I never knew he had cancer. He was a tough man until death--an admirable display of stoicism.
 

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Cancer takes another one. I never met Jophil except through this forum but his comments were spot on and he helped me when I was way down. Thank you, Mate.

Countermart
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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