"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jon and Kate plus 8

thedarkpassenger

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I was checking out at the grocery store the other day, and couldn't help notice all the gossip magazines talking about how Jon Gosselin from Jon and Kate Plus 8 is a sleezebag, scum, cheater, deadbeat father, and more.

I've been watching Jon and Kate for years since it first came out. I'll be the first to admit that I love this show and used to watch it religiously. I am so sick and tired of everything blaming Jon for leaving Kate and for being such as azzhole.

The truth of the matter is, Kate is a horribly abusive partner and a terrible wife. I recently got out of a 5 year abusive relationship. Women don't realize this but when the guy really loves you, you can do some serious damage to his self esteem and ego. I noticed Kate doing this constantly. Telling him he's wrong, nagging him, breaking his balls, castrating him daily. Why didn't he fight back? Because why should he? It's his wife and he has 8 kids to worry about. I don't know if Kate was testing Jon for all these years, or if she's just naturally such a *****...but I don't blame Jon for leaving at all.

Aside from the kids, which I don't think he should have left so easily, his wife really did, as the old cliche goes, drive him into the arms of another woman.

After 5 years of giving everything I have, trying so hard to change and to stop myself from annoying my girlfriend, I never let her give me ****. I always stood up for myself, as I have very high self confidence to begin with. But this takes a toll on you. When every day, she tells you what you're doing wrong. If I do 99% right, and 1% wrong, she'll talk about the 1% for weeks and weeks, killing my ego, and destroying any bit of attraction I used to have for her.

I really do think Jon did the right thing by leaving. I can't stand the media trying to paint Jon as the bad guy, when in reality, Kate treated him like crap, mentally abused him, basically cut off his balls on a daily basis. Was he a bit passive? A little bit of a doormat? Of course. You have to EARN your respect. But it really is difficult to earn the respect of a woman when her default attitude towards Jon is annoyed, frustrated and nagging.

It kills your peace of mind, and every minute is torture. I don't blame Jon for leaving and I wish more people would stand up for him. He's not a bad guy in my opinion. I think Kate brought this on herself. You can't treat someone like crap for years and except them to love you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Julian

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I stopped reading at "I'll be the first to admit that I love this show and used to watch it religiously."
 

ENIGMA16

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Kate was always a crazy controlling b1tch. She has the ugliest f*ckin haircut, too, and she is not good looking at all. It was a good show before they had to "come up with ideas" which turned into "watch Jon, Kate and their kids do some sh1t/meet some people/mess around with some sh1t that the network paid for/employs!"
 

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Jon's a dumbass for letting his wife push him around like that, whatever. What would be a GREAT show would be Kate trying to get back into the dating scene. I would love to see the chumps they get to date this controlling b*tch with 8 kids. I've seen about 30 seconds of the show, I hate the "family" reality stuff even more so than the MTV reality shows, but watching desperate AFC's trying to get with Kate would be hilarious.
 

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This discussion belongs to "Anything Else".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ice882

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Stupidest fvcking thing in the world. Pisses me off so much.
 
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