"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Join the army?

Scaramanga86

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I been giving serious thought to joining the British Army, more specifically the paratroops. Im in my last year of school, dont know what im doing when i finish. My folks are dead against the idea. anyone here served in armed forces? Suggestions and opinions please
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Climax

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Hey.... I have not served in the army myself, but both my parents have, my grandparents, uncles and aunts... And from what they told me, the army was ALOT harder than what they thought it would be... And you have to aknowlege the risk of death.

In my honest opinion i wouldnt go to the army because in my eye's its a waste of a good few years where i could be doing so much MORE with my life... but there you go, thats my 2c worths;)
 

TheMainMan

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Mate, I aint in any forces myself but if I was you I'd join the RAF out of the three.

I reckon they are the most well respected.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SurfsupinHawaii

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I'm in the U.S. Army.. been in for 2 years now.. Personally its been the best thing I have ever done for myself.. You sacrafice a lot and its a shock at first but then you learn to live like this and its not so bad.

The one thing a lot of people have trouble with is realizing that there will ALWAYS!!!!! be someone in charge of you telling you where to be and when to be there and what to be wearing. As long as you understand that and are willing to make a sacrafice and be a member of a team and lose the whole "SELF" complex you will be fine.

PM me if you wanna.. Good luck brother
 

Centaurion

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i was in the army.

dont do it. sure, you'll get to know yourself better..and all that crap, but frankly, it sucks.
 

Tha Realnezz

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You must be out your mind.

There's a war still going on and the UK is in it,you know this right?
 

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lose whole "SELF" complex you will be fine.
Yeah everyone lets do that :rolleyes:
 

MoveYourAss...

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I'm not a pacifist, I'm deeply into real martial arts, but I will NEVER EVER give up my right to not use violence when I don't see the necessity and I will NEVER EVER allow that ANYBODY ELSE tells me against whom I have to use violence, or even whom to kill.

You may have to fight in unjustified wars, you might have to use violence against people who are not a thread. You give up one of your most basic freedoms. Think about it.

MoveYourA$$.. and your brain will follow
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alpine

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All I can say is good luck on the trainazium, although I believe the new one is less likely to kill you:D

All I know is I have lots of mates who are coming out, especially infantry and marines. It's basically sh1t and it's getting worse.

Having said that, for a lot of people it's a way to get out of the ghetto if you can't box and don't want to sell substances.

As someones said RAF or maybe REME or RE, there is no glamour in being an ex-para on the dole with no trade and mental health issues that no-one wants to help with.

Good luck
 

Julian

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holy sh1t thats the most butchered spelling of a word ive seen on these boards in like 2 months.
 
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