Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
It won't get easier as the weights get higher, put it that way 
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
lol.. ok so thats more or less normal then. Well know I know what to expect (sort of).Quagmire911 said:It won't get easier as the weights get higher, put it that way![]()
From the sounds of things I'd have done the sameJohnnyIrish said:*update*
Due to: this event my working out and diet have been complete azz since Friday. I also have a bit of a stomach bug (I'm just not hungry) today so I can't eat much more then soup.. so no lifting today either.
Hopefully it'll be gone by today/tomorrow so I can quickly get back on track.![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thanks Quagmire. I know one shouldn't compromise ones beliefs/discipline.. but then again every once in awhile one needs to stop and smell the roses so to speak. I try to keep reminding myself that life is a journey and not just a destination. In any event, looking back I'd do it(her) again in a heart beat lol.Quagmire911 said:From the sounds of things I'd have done the same.
Rough quote by Stronglifts: "It's not what you do between Christmas and New Year that counts, its what you do between New Year and Christmas".
I was afraid as the last time I worked deads was like 3 weeks ago (they have gone the longest of my 3 lifting days with out being worked out).. but after today I see your right as I didn't loose as much lifting pondage as I was fearing.Quagmire911 said:The weight will probably be back in under a week, or at least most of it anyway.
Strength shouldn't take long either. Couple of weeks max and you should be PR'ing again
Quagmire
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The strategy that's worked well for me in the past is cranking out the first 5, taking a 3-deep-breath break, cranking out another 5, 3 breath break, then do two at a time in similar fashion until I finished.Lighter squats (repsxlbs):
15 70
/\ Tough one. I had to slow down for the last 4 so I could catch my breath.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Doh.. your right. Thanks Quicksilver.Quagmire911 said:I think you meant thank you Quiksilver![]()
My stomach burns. Acid indigestion that hit me hard the Friday before new years. I thought it a bug or some virus or some crap.. but I feel no symptoms of a bug anymore and my stomach doesn't feel normal, it still burn every so often, Ive had some minor acid reflux, and my appetite is NOT what it should be. I've been taking a pepsid ac before bed each night, it helps.Quagmire911 said:What problems are you experiencing with your stomach?
If you add olive oil (fat) to whey then yes, it will take longer to digest.
If you are having problem with curls/forearm work then I'd try out hammer curls. Something like 3x10-12. They helped me out at one point and work both the forearms and biceps. Like this:
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/Brachioradialis/DBHammerCurl.html
Although I do this kneeling one arm at a time with my elbow supported on a bench.
As for adding in one HIIT session that should be alright although I'd do something like rowing 1 minute hard/1minutes easy and vice versa for 15-20 minutes. You can also try the elliptical or bike. Running can be hard on recovery time. Another option if you hate machines like me is to do the 100 burpee challenge
Quagmire
Ps:Today:
Deadlifts (reps/lbs):
10 bar
6 20
1 50
1 70
5 90
6 90
What is going on here? The bar weighs 44lbs...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.