"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jerking had no effect on two minute man

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Ok, so back in november I lasted 1.5 hours on the back seat of my car. Even as recently as december I couldn't cvm with a pro for 1 hour. Now, with my gf, I last on average 2 or 3 minutes. I thought I'll jerk off, and I did, and it has absolutely no effect on my time. The only thing it had effect on is a crappier orgasm.

I think I know what's up. I'm used to her, and feel absolutely safe near her. With others I had anxiety, which pushed me to last long long.

What to do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fvcking ironic, since I have gone through the same thing as you are. I think it just boils down to the fact you no longer unconsciously have performance anxiety. Some guys can't get it up, and others can but last forver until they no longer feel "pressure" so to speak.
 

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For me, the only relevant factors in deciding the duration of a sexual experience are:

1) Time elapsed since last orgasm
2) The amount of friction/pressure applied to the penis during sex

To the first point, if you haven't released in a while, you may be more sensitive to pressure and orgasm sooner. I'm no doctor, but that's typically been the case for me. Someone should perform an experiment and give us some raw data. Control for ALL variables and see if this holds true. Unfortunately I don't have a worthy research subject, so I can't do this myself :p

To the second point, it could be the girl. Obviously if she's very tight, you won't be able to last long. You'll be simply going through the motions if she's all stretched out.

If you want to last longer, I suggest you try a different position or technique before going for whatever you're most comfortable with. Calibrate the foreplay differently. I used to date a girl who was tight as a knot. In order to post respectable times, I created mental diversions for myself such as rehashing multiplication tables or relisting the entire 1992 Dallas Cowboys roster. Thinking about men while having sex probably isn't good for your mental health, but diversions can be an excellent way of extending your time in the bedroom.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I find that if I've had a few drinks with a good buzz going on I can last as long as I want.
 

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Stress will affect your performance. Any man who is under stress will tend to orgasm quicker or he may not even be able to get it up, at all. Take a mental note of your life, recently. Anything changed?
 

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i remember one time i was going at it pretty hard and nothing was going on.. i mean it felt good but i wasn't really going to ***. then she moved her hips and my peen went deeper into her. i insta came right there and then. best feeling EVER!

i don't know what the fark she did but it worked.

i would say that your girl knows what she is doing. but also try using a rubber. that works for me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ok, so I increased time a little bit, not much, but enough for her to cvm. Little more foreplay so she's wetter, and I don't go quick, slowly, a bit faster than 1 per second. After second orgasm I can go quicker and still last longer.
 

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backseatjuan said:
Ok, so back in november I lasted 1.5 hours on the back seat of my car. Even as recently as december I couldn't cvm with a pro for 1 hour. Now, with my gf, I last on average 2 or 3 minutes. I thought I'll jerk off, and I did, and it has absolutely no effect on my time. The only thing it had effect on is a crappier orgasm.

I think I know what's up. I'm used to her, and feel absolutely safe near her. With others I had anxiety, which pushed me to last long long.

What to do?

Bro, i hope this helps.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=71762
 
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