"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jelousy as a tool

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes it can be an effective tool and I'm pretty sure many posters here have brought it up as such.

Not sure why you haven't seen any posts about this though.

Anyway in your situation using jealousy could be dangerous as what will you do if a chick decides to make you jealous right back?

See I think this will throw a wrench in your plans because you being the jealous type will have your emotions engaged if a chick does this to you and as its often pointed out when the emotion of anger is introduced thinking and analysis is shut down which puts you at a big disadvantage and her at an extreme advantage.

So yeah unless you can beat the jealousy thing in your own life I wouldn't try it dude.

Stick with other tactics in the Sosuave arsenal.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Yes it can be an effective tool and I'm pretty sure many posters here have brought it up as such.

Not sure why you haven't seen any posts about this though.

Anyway in your situation using jealousy could be dangerous as what will you do if a chick decides to make you jealous right back?

See I think this will throw a wrench in your plans because you being the jealous type will have your emotions engaged if a chick does this to you and as its often pointed out when the emotion of anger is introduced thinking and analysis is shut down which puts you at a big disadvantage and her at an extreme advantage.

So yeah unless you can beat the jealousy thing in your own life I wouldn't try it dude.

Stick with other tactics in the Sosuave arsenal.
i have to disagree with jealousy being an effective tool.

i think that completely deframes you from what this site is all about.

spending time and energy in hopes to make someone else feel a certain way about you is not what you should be trying to accomplish.

better yourself in everything you do. if a girl/guy/whoever happens to get jealous, enjoy the fact that your everyday activities controlled the emotions of someone else.

but IMO "Purposely" spending time on someone elses emotions seem pointless. you dont need anyones validation
 

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The tool is effective if you can properly handle its power. The way I see it, it's the big gun that not many people are capable of even holding. I tried making a jealous girl one time, it kind of worked out. She ended up svcking my **** lol. But I personally wouldn't recommend to have others try it out; it's literally hit or miss, but moreso miss.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jeliously is an effective tool to get what you want.

My girlfriend left me for another guy. It hurt but instead of falling apart and showing her I was upset I went on with my life and saw some other girls. As soon as she heard I was with other girls she came running back. Begging to take her back.


Her being jealious that other girls had me made her want me, and brought her back to me without me having to raise a finger.
 

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Jealousy is simply one of many tools that can be used.

Thats what this site is about.

Giving men options and techniques to use if they need them.

It doesn't mean anyone has to use jealousy.

Use what works for you is basically the message of this site.

Its like VU says.

All the advice here is simply weapons in a DJ's arsenal.

Sometimes the grenades aren't right for the job so you grab the Uzi.

Whatever technique works.
 

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john paul said:
Jeliously is an effective tool to get what you want.
yea ur right about this jealousy.

But if ur talking about being jealous about your girlfriend thats baaaad :down:

Me said:
Jealousy is for AFC's that are scared that someone will steal they're girlfriend.

A true DJ knows that noone can steal his women.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Jealousy is simply one of many tools that can be used.

Thats what this site is about.

Giving men options and techniques to use if they need them.

It doesn't mean anyone has to use jealousy.

Use what works for you is basically the message of this site.

Its like VU says.

All the advice here is simply weapons in a DJ's arsenal.

Sometimes the grenades aren't right for the job so you grab the Uzi.

Whatever technique works.
i agree that this site should promote different "tools" that gets the job done...

but dont you think using "jealousy" as a "tool" promotes the wrong concept here??

spending energy on such a thing doesnt help you realize YOUR THE PRIZE.

it gives the other party the advantage (whether they know it or not)

you are doing some form of action to impress/get attention/etc and hoping that it will present false emotions
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
yea ur right about this jealousy.

But if ur talking about being jealous about your girlfriend thats baaaad :down:

Yea get rid of all the jealous feelings you have inside you.


You can't be jealous and also be confident. Because theres no such thing as a DJ with no confidence.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think you've got a point to your whole post davejuan if you are the DJ that is looking for a serious committed relationship.

However I see no problem with playing the jealousy game if you are simply a DJ that is out there having fun with women and looking for fvck buddies.

In those instances jealousy can really work on the fragile female emotions and keep the FB ride going with them longer before it inevitably fizzles out.

So to clarify I agree with you that its not a good tool in the DJ arsenal if you are trying to establish a mature healthy relationship with a woman but on the other hand if you are simply fooling around with some random slvts that you find it can be a fun tool to use.
 
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