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Don Juan
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm a style addict, and jean shorts don't look good with anything, unless you go for a country singer look. Its not about being an individual. Stay away from jean shorts.jeffthechef said:haha..i never wear jeans...even at night..just not used tot hem...but im starting to this summer
i usually wear shorts
all i know is....girls don't like guys in capris...but i dont like capris either
I GOT IT...GENIUS IDEA
you like jeans but not shorts...but want to wear shorts
JEAN SHORTS....GENIUS..IM A REAL MAN OF GENIUS:yes:
buutttttt....i heard on some fashion show..that jean shorts are a no no...but i think that applies only when you're a little older cause i see lots of guys still wearing them...if there are guys where you live that wear em...sure...if there aren't, still why not? You're an individual so **** the rest of them...literally too =)
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You got some decent style. I like the shoes.saturos said:I'm a style addict, and jean shorts don't look good with anything, unless you go for a country singer look. Its not about being an individual. Stay away from jean shorts.
And what are you talking about girls don't like capris? Hell of a lot better than athletic shorts...athletic shorts are practically never good in the way of style.
Jeans in the summer only fly on rainy/crap days
how i dress with jeans on rainy days: http://i138.photobucket.com/albums/q246/maddmurago/Style/2.jpg
www.kinowear.comssj4halo said:saturos-where did you learn how to do dress? books? Any particular ones for a newbie. Maybe you should make a thread about it and make it a sticky(just basics, unwritten rules like the jean thing, pointers for the casual look you got going). I as well as some others, would really appreciate it. :]
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.