"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jealousy!!!

Hockey Playa

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I Know jealously is a trait that is a major turnoff for a girl, and it shows lack of confidence in the guy. I cant help it tho my girlfriend, cheated on me once when we were seeing each other, i gave her another chance and she swore shed never again. Ever since than we've been great, but i alwayz find myself wondering what shes doing on nights im not with her. Even if she tries to flirt with others guys to test me, if bugs the **** out of me. I really do like this girl, and dont wanna lose her, i think thats why i get so jealous (she doesnt know), whats the best way to deal with jealously, laugh it off? I just get these images in my head of her kissing another guy and it makes me sick.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i am me

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Since she already cheated on you, this probably isn't the girl you would consider having a LONG term relationship with so don't treat it like you're going to be with her forever. Treat her and see her as more of a friend with benefits...
 

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Cheat on her then break up. Or just break up with her. Im guessing shes cheated more than once, but shes sneaky like ninja...haha. Seriously though, if youre gonna be jealous dont be with her. Watch mtv true life about cheaters, good show.
 

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im not breaking up with her, its turning into a LTR, as i said she only cheated when we were seeing each other not officially going out. Shes met my parents, ive met hers on numerous occasions, shes already talking about plans for the summer, so why would she do that is she didnt want an LTR, but i still get so damn jealous
 

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Originally posted by Hockey Playa
im not breaking up with her, its turning into a LTR, as i said she only cheated when we were seeing each other not officially going out. Shes met my parents, ive met hers on numerous occasions, shes already talking about plans for the summer, so why would she do that is she didnt want an LTR, but i still get so damn jealous
If you werent officially together then it wasnt OFFICIALLY cheating...problem solved. Girls talk about future plans all the time. Ive had girls do that and we were only together for a week. Learn to control your jealousy so youre not some whiny b*tch.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you got the chance to cheat, you would probably end up jumping on a girl. Stop with the self-doubt and all the self-criticism. Just be confident and sure of yourself. If you can't trust a girl who has made a promise, then that's your own problem. You said you gave her a second chance, but it seems more like a parole-watch to me. Give her some space, and loosen up if you want this LTR to work out.

-Damian
 

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Girl chaten on Ya so You have to chat on her, and seek for other girl. Also there is no love without jealousy. But this wont be love, and if it will be -= You are lame.
My woman never cheaten on my, but id never let her go anywehrre alone or talk too long with guy-friends. Im a jealous psychopat and i dont care. Woman love me for all the eveil stuff.
 

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i am not so sure you truly love this girl, i think you are only holding on to her so hard because of your over-possessive desire, or your doubt and fear of your abilities to get another girl after breaking up with the current one.

cheating is already a bad sign, but sure give her a second chance why not, i say most ppl do deserve a second chance

but the problem is, she made a promise and you still cannot trust her.

"Love without frendship in its base is like a castle built upon the sands."

And what's the foundation for any successful and pure friendship? Trust.

Loyal husband and wife trust eachother, best freinds trust eachother, couples truly in love trust eachother, etc, and if you cant trust her word of promises it is an omen for a relationship that is going to have many severe rocky and harsh obstacles.
 
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