"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jealousy!!!

Hockey Playa

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I Know jealously is a trait that is a major turnoff for a girl, and it shows lack of confidence in the guy. I cant help it tho my girlfriend, cheated on me once when we were seeing each other, i gave her another chance and she swore shed never again. Ever since than we've been great, but i alwayz find myself wondering what shes doing on nights im not with her. Even if she tries to flirt with others guys to test me, if bugs the **** out of me. I really do like this girl, and dont wanna lose her, i think thats why i get so jealous (she doesnt know), whats the best way to deal with jealously, laugh it off? I just get these images in my head of her kissing another guy and it makes me sick.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i am me

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Since she already cheated on you, this probably isn't the girl you would consider having a LONG term relationship with so don't treat it like you're going to be with her forever. Treat her and see her as more of a friend with benefits...
 

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Cheat on her then break up. Or just break up with her. Im guessing shes cheated more than once, but shes sneaky like ninja...haha. Seriously though, if youre gonna be jealous dont be with her. Watch mtv true life about cheaters, good show.
 

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im not breaking up with her, its turning into a LTR, as i said she only cheated when we were seeing each other not officially going out. Shes met my parents, ive met hers on numerous occasions, shes already talking about plans for the summer, so why would she do that is she didnt want an LTR, but i still get so damn jealous
 

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Originally posted by Hockey Playa
im not breaking up with her, its turning into a LTR, as i said she only cheated when we were seeing each other not officially going out. Shes met my parents, ive met hers on numerous occasions, shes already talking about plans for the summer, so why would she do that is she didnt want an LTR, but i still get so damn jealous
If you werent officially together then it wasnt OFFICIALLY cheating...problem solved. Girls talk about future plans all the time. Ive had girls do that and we were only together for a week. Learn to control your jealousy so youre not some whiny b*tch.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Damian

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If you got the chance to cheat, you would probably end up jumping on a girl. Stop with the self-doubt and all the self-criticism. Just be confident and sure of yourself. If you can't trust a girl who has made a promise, then that's your own problem. You said you gave her a second chance, but it seems more like a parole-watch to me. Give her some space, and loosen up if you want this LTR to work out.

-Damian
 

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Girl chaten on Ya so You have to chat on her, and seek for other girl. Also there is no love without jealousy. But this wont be love, and if it will be -= You are lame.
My woman never cheaten on my, but id never let her go anywehrre alone or talk too long with guy-friends. Im a jealous psychopat and i dont care. Woman love me for all the eveil stuff.
 

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i am not so sure you truly love this girl, i think you are only holding on to her so hard because of your over-possessive desire, or your doubt and fear of your abilities to get another girl after breaking up with the current one.

cheating is already a bad sign, but sure give her a second chance why not, i say most ppl do deserve a second chance

but the problem is, she made a promise and you still cannot trust her.

"Love without frendship in its base is like a castle built upon the sands."

And what's the foundation for any successful and pure friendship? Trust.

Loyal husband and wife trust eachother, best freinds trust eachother, couples truly in love trust eachother, etc, and if you cant trust her word of promises it is an omen for a relationship that is going to have many severe rocky and harsh obstacles.
 
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