"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jealousy

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Should you ever admit to a girl of being 'jealous' of her other guy friends she hangs out with? I feel expressing jealousy towards another guy shows insecurity...am i wrong?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It does...so don't tell her you're jealous.

If you're protecting her from unwanted touching though, then she'll probably think its cute...know the different though
 

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Should you ever admit to a girl of being 'jealous' of her other guy friends she hangs out with? I feel expressing jealousy towards another guy shows insecurity...am i wrong?
I think he's a a**hole, do you agree?

there's a flip around :p, if she starts getting defensive, find a joke within, then poke fun at her for being too tense.
 

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Come on now... when is jealousy ever a good thing?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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being jealous raises his value. Thats not a direction you want to go in
 

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Jealousy does lower your value and increase someone elses. It's not a good thing for YOU to show jealousy. This takes control away from you and places it in the wrong hands-HERS!

So what do you do...you play it off as you are not jealous and not care. However, what if this poses a big problem for her and wonders "why"? Why is he not concerned of this AFC who I have gone out to lunch with. If he dosent care, he may not be interested in me? Guess what i'm trying to say is...there has to be a balance between the two extremes: Jealousy and not caring.

In a relationship, girls are going to meet up with their guy friends, some of which are interested in her. I feel these guys are no threat and simply forget about them, in a sense, not caring. Maybe this 'shows' a lack of interest, but i have a problem with the showing of jealousy towards another man. In my honest opinion, i'm happy with the way I am and am not jealous of any other man.

-FD
 

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Originally posted by Fumbduck

So what do you do...you play it off as you are not jealous and not care. However, what if this poses a big problem for her and wonders "why"? Why is he not concerned of this AFC who I have gone out to lunch with. If he dosent care, he may not be interested in me? Guess what i'm trying to say is...there has to be a balance between the two extremes: Jealousy and not caring.
-FD
I don't follow......she will ask 'Why?' but this is a GOOD thing. This is her playing a game with you. She's going to lunch with this guy to TEST your worthiness, this you need to understand. It's her way of saying "I'm going to lunch with this guy to see if fumbduck can handle that, If he can't OH WELL. At least I have this guy to fall back on.".......I think you just need to start uping you value cus you don't sound very confident that your good enough for this girl, focus more on self improvement.
 
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