Fumbduck
Don Juan
Should you ever admit to a girl of being 'jealous' of her other guy friends she hangs out with? I feel expressing jealousy towards another guy shows insecurity...am i wrong?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Jealousy
- Thread starter Fumbduck
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Docs
Banned
I think he's a a**hole, do you agree?
there's a flip around
, if she starts getting defensive, find a joke within, then poke fun at her for being too tense."She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Fumbduck
Don Juan
Jealousy does lower your value and increase someone elses. It's not a good thing for YOU to show jealousy. This takes control away from you and places it in the wrong hands-HERS!
So what do you do...you play it off as you are not jealous and not care. However, what if this poses a big problem for her and wonders "why"? Why is he not concerned of this AFC who I have gone out to lunch with. If he dosent care, he may not be interested in me? Guess what i'm trying to say is...there has to be a balance between the two extremes: Jealousy and not caring.
In a relationship, girls are going to meet up with their guy friends, some of which are interested in her. I feel these guys are no threat and simply forget about them, in a sense, not caring. Maybe this 'shows' a lack of interest, but i have a problem with the showing of jealousy towards another man. In my honest opinion, i'm happy with the way I am and am not jealous of any other man.
-FD
So what do you do...you play it off as you are not jealous and not care. However, what if this poses a big problem for her and wonders "why"? Why is he not concerned of this AFC who I have gone out to lunch with. If he dosent care, he may not be interested in me? Guess what i'm trying to say is...there has to be a balance between the two extremes: Jealousy and not caring.
In a relationship, girls are going to meet up with their guy friends, some of which are interested in her. I feel these guys are no threat and simply forget about them, in a sense, not caring. Maybe this 'shows' a lack of interest, but i have a problem with the showing of jealousy towards another man. In my honest opinion, i'm happy with the way I am and am not jealous of any other man.
-FD
thefonz
Master Don Juan
I don't follow......she will ask 'Why?' but this is a GOOD thing. This is her playing a game with you. She's going to lunch with this guy to TEST your worthiness, this you need to understand. It's her way of saying "I'm going to lunch with this guy to see if fumbduck can handle that, If he can't OH WELL. At least I have this guy to fall back on.".......I think you just need to start uping you value cus you don't sound very confident that your good enough for this girl, focus more on self improvement.