"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jealousy gone bad

Kourt

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Alright heres the story:

I'm on the dance floor of the club, and I'm dancing with two fairly attractive chics, lets say a 7.5 and 7 (I didnt have a wingman meh) About 5 feet away is a group of about 8 girls that i've know for a while, but its impossible to grind with any one chic without the other 7 c0ckblocking so i've kind of given up on them. Plus we're friends and I woudlnt want to jepardize that. So I've been paying attention to the hb 7 and somewhat ignoring the hb 7.5. Both have their shields up, so I just dance with them for about 5 minutes. After that they seem more relaxed about dancing with me so I make my move. I go up to the 7 and start some hip to hip grinding. After a few seconds of that I change it to the good old front back grind. Now apparently the group of chics that were a few feet away on the dance floor noticed my success and got jeleous. So after about 5 seconds of good full on grind out of the blue one of girls from my group of 'girlfriends' literally grabs my shirt and drags me into their circle. All that time and effort wasted to grind on the hb 7 and who knows what else wasted by the group of chics I made jeleous. Makes me mad. I danced with the group of chics for a song and then went back to the bar. Mby nextime I wont get c0ckblocker by a group of jeleous girls. Like I said earlier you cant make a move on a girl with 7 of her friends around or I wouldnt be pissed. Anyway, jeleousy is not always good. And how should I go about avoiding this situation in the future? I'm sure i'll have better luck next time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Grey Fox

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Not all ****block situations will lead to a ****block. If this is the first time you have been caught in this situation I can understand you not seeing the golden oppurtunity that presented itself here.
The girls that were dancing with you all were interested in you. Their IL was on average to say medium, otherwise why would they dance with you if they did not find you attractive. I garuntee that if you were ugly they certainly would not think about ****blocking you. But for the next time you are in that kind of situation here's what I want you to do.

When a who is jealous is trying to steal you away from the chick you are dancing with, this is your time to shine. First be playful about it and reject her in such away that it appears she almost got you away. I.E. When the girl has your hands on her shirt take her hands pull her close give her a cheshire and go back to other girl. This will cause all the girls involved to have their IL go through the roof and here is why.

Jealous girl finds she has a real challenge on her hands, and will have to do a lot more than simply grab you. Instead of trying to jerk you around like a dog on some leash she is going to have to actually put herself on the line and face possible rejection by making advances at you....that should be nice for a change.

Jealous girls friends will see you are no easy prize, and in their nature want show up jealous girl by being the one to attract you.

The 7 and 7.5 will gain higher interest because you just did something awesome for them. Not only did you stand by this new girl which gets you points, but you were not stolen away by hotter girls, which they are accustomed too. Which is a nice change for them, so they will be definately more interested.

The bottom line for all these women, it's that you don't come off as the typical guy. Which causes high interest, because it is human nature to be attracted to the rare things that are just out of reach in life. Know this and play them off each other, like brass instruments against the string section in a syphony to make an excellent concert. You of course get to conduct this Don Juan masterpiece. Have fun.

-Grey Fox
 

Caveman

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Kourt, listen to that advice. It's the best you could have been given.
 

Kourt

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wow thats great advice, I kind of followed it to btw, cuz when I got dragged into the chics dance cirlce the 2 chics that I was dancing with went out onto the balcony to cool off or somthin like that. So after a couple minutes of dancing with the group I went out onto the balcony and introduced myself to the chics. Oh and whats a cheshire. I looked it up in the dictionary and it said somthin about cottage cheese? lol
 

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Cheshire smile is a term for a wide, sly knowing grin. Like the one the Cheshire Cat gives in Alice in Wonderland. Which is where the expression comes from.

-Grey Fox
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kourt

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ah, gotcah, thanks
 
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