I am a slightly jealous girlfriend, I read an article on this website that said jealous men should play it cool and not attempt to restrict their girlfriends behaviour, ie: lunch with ex, or male strip club, and she would respect him. Would you say this approach can work in the reverse? Or will "letting" my boyfriend go to strip clubs and lunch with past flames just give him opportunities that he can't resist?[/COL:nervous: OR]
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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there's the link to my picture, didn't know how else to do it. It's huge for some reason. Anyways I know I shouldn't hope for any serious advice, but if you could that would be great.
there's the link to my picture, didn't know how else to do it. It's huge for some reason. Anyways I know I shouldn't hope for any serious advice, but if you could that would be great.
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Forgive the horny newbies on the site. Many of them are still trying to land a woman.
As for strip clubs, they're only entertainment. I have no problem with my woman going out for some entertainment with her friends. Let's face it, most women won't get undressed and squirt whipped cream all over themselves for their men.
I don't know what goes on in male strip clubs, but I'm sure he wouldn't do any of the 5hit those guys do just for your entertainment.
I'm guessing that was on the main site since most of the guys here (including me) don't agree with her keeping an ex in her life. An ex is an ex for a reason.
As for strip clubs, they're only entertainment. I have no problem with my woman going out for some entertainment with her friends. Let's face it, most women won't get undressed and squirt whipped cream all over themselves for their men.
I don't know what goes on in male strip clubs, but I'm sure he wouldn't do any of the 5hit those guys do just for your entertainment.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
spider_007
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it all depends on how weak your man is, and how much he likes you.marianne said:
Thank you, Desdinova. So are you saying I should just play it cool if he vere wants to have lunch with an ex? Because there's a school of thought that says thats inappropriate, and that I should go with him. I myself have no interest in male strip clubs, or in even speaking to my exes, because I am only interested in my BF. Should I expect the same from him?
:crackup:far from average said:
The quality of the advice you will get here will be proportional to your HB rating. The hotter you are the dumber the advice, the uglier you are the smarter the advice.
Therefore if you are one ugly chick, you will get such gems as: Stick with your man because you can't do any better.
or
If you are a fine babe HB9.99 then you will get gems such as:\
"What time can you be at my house? Don't forget to pick up the condoms on the way and some beer for after sex relaxation.
I just saw your supposed pic and I love those eyes. Does tha t model come with a mute button?
K
My compliments. You have noble features - apperance.
Acting cool about meeting exs is one thing but everyone knows it is not OK, right?
You cant freak out and you cant let him do this. Is he going out with other women because he has reason to believe that your relantionship is not so hot? Is he looking for "insurance" - backup? If so...let him know your interest level is high.
Check your intuition...does he love you and respects you? If not so strong...bad.
Acting cool about meeting exs is one thing but everyone knows it is not OK, right?
You cant freak out and you cant let him do this. Is he going out with other women because he has reason to believe that your relantionship is not so hot? Is he looking for "insurance" - backup? If so...let him know your interest level is high.
Check your intuition...does he love you and respects you? If not so strong...bad.
Thanks also, spider. He seems pretty strong. What brought all this on was that he was camping last month, and hung out with these guys, and two girls that were with them. Apparently the girls gave my BF their phone numbers and said they'd like to hang out at the lake again sometime. (my BF has a boat) What freaked me out was that he didn't tell me about it for a month! He said he thought I'd freak out, but he never called them and didn't plan to. I wouldn't have been so irked by it if he had just told me at the time, when he keeps secrets it feels like he's ashamed or something, and if he has no reason to be, why keep secrets?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I'm not saying that at all. Read again, an ex is an EX for a reason.
However, I feel the need to inform you that if you haven't been with him for very long, don't expect him to abandon an ex too quickly. AFCs like to hang onto useless, 5hitty things that are of no use
But, if you've been with him for a while (2+ months), you have every right to say something about him showing attention to someone who doesn't deserve it (the ex).
Do you know what the circumstances were for them breaking up?
You would have freaked out matter what, like you are doing now. Get over it. If you keep acting like this he will think you are a possesive bytch and he will lose respect for you. Act cool and he will be able to develop trust in you.marianne said:
K
ha ha actually I've been with him for 3 years! The lunch with ex thing is just an example, there isn't any immediate threat of it happening. I guess I'm actually pretty lucky. He hasn't talked to any of his exes, as far as I know. Plus his dad says I'm the prettiest girl he's dated, and I seen pics of his last GF. Woof!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PS I'm going to mexico with my friends this weekend, (my bF was invited but apparently the resort doesn't allow dirtbikes so he declined.) He's going to the lake with his friends. I keep picturing all these women throwing themselves at him, but I'm not gonna say anything. Just be cool, right, like it ain't no thang?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.