"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jayer and everyone else - I need your recommendations

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I'm currently reading Jayer's Approach Journal and it's very entertaining and insightful, and he seems to be honest about his DJ experiences. I'm a big fan of this forum because of it. I was wondering if any other DJ has started an Approach Journal like Jayer's. Any recommendations would be appreciated. Oh, and Jayer if you're reading this.. How tall are you? What's your weight? What color is your skin? What color are your eyes and hair? What do you look like in other words. I'd like to paint a picture of you as it'll make your stories a lot more interesting.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sosocool said:
I'm currently reading Jayer's Approach Journal and it's very entertaining and insightful, and he seems to be honest about his DJ experiences. I'm a big fan of this forum because of it. I was wondering if any other DJ has started an Approach Journal like Jayer's. Any recommendations would be appreciated. Oh, and Jayer if you're reading this.. How tall are you? What's your weight? What color is your skin? What color are your eyes and hair? What do you look like in other words. I'd like to paint a picture of you as it'll make your stories a lot more interesting.

I'll just...I'll just leave this alone.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
I'll just...I'll just leave this alone.

Oh pretty please don't do it otherwise I'll be soooo destroyed!

Fuvk off.

What is your reply suppose to mean anyway?

Are you so delusional with seduction material that you actually believe that looks (yes, skin color and height included) does not have ANYTHING to do with how a woman responds with attraction. Well sorry to break it to you, but IT DOES.

For everyone who has just been destroyed or who has just been overwhelmed with chronic depression from hearing the news don't feel so bad. It is a very SMALL part of the seduction, but it is a factor nonetheless. I believe the biggest factor that will determine success with women is in how you view the world, yourself, and women (your belief and attitude) and what emotions you feel when you are around women. At least in my experience women have been like sharks to blood with emotions. They can sense what you're feeling from a mile away. I'm a short, dark man but when I've been under the influence of the right emotions (it's like a high) women (white, black, latin... color was no issue) have literally gravitated towards me and approaching and meeting them has been so easy. But because I am bi-polar it is really hard for me to always be under that one incredible state that makes meeting women so easy for me.

Anyway, sorry if I offended anyone but sometimes the truth just hurts.
 

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sosocool said:
Oh pretty please don't do it otherwise I'll be soooo destroyed!

Fuvk off.

What is your reply suppose to mean anyway?

Are you so delusional with seduction material that you actually believe that looks (yes, skin color and height included) does not have ANYTHING to do with how a woman responds with attraction. Well sorry to break it to you, but IT DOES.

For everyone who has just been destroyed or who has just been overwhelmed with chronic depression from hearing the news don't feel so bad. It is a very SMALL part of the seduction, but it is a factor nonetheless. I believe the biggest factor that will determine success with women is in how you view the world, yourself, and women (your belief and attitude) and what emotions you feel when you are around women. At least in my experience women have been like sharks to blood with emotions. They can sense what you're feeling from a mile away. I'm a short, dark man but when I've been under the influence of the right emotions (it's like a high) women have literally gravitated towards me and approaching and meeting them has been so easy. But because I am bi-polar it is really hard for me to always be under that one incredible state that makes meeting women so easy for me.

Anyway, sorry if I offended anyone but sometimes the truth just hurts.
If you don't have Jayer's height, weight, or skin/eye color, then what are you gonna do?
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
If you don't have Jayer's height, weight, or skin/eye color, then what are you gonna do?
What do you mean what am I going to do without this info?

nothing. I'm just going to continue reading his cool journal but without knowing what character looks like. Do you prefer your stories with a faceless character?

Again, what are your replies about?

Do you think I'm going to track down Jayer or something like that?

Like knowing this info will be enough to know who the hell he his in a world where there are probably millions who fit this vague description of him. Give me a break.

I don't understand what the problem is with knowing MINOR details about a poster... especially about someone who is sharing his stories with others. Maybe I just want to know if he can relate to me. I mean you don't really want to take dating advice from Brad Pitt, do you? If so, rest assured that you will not have similar results as him if you look nothing like him.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sosocool said:
What do you mean what am I going to do without this info?

nothing. I'm just going to continue reading his cool journal but without knowing what character looks like. Do you prefer your stories with a faceless character, or with?

Again, what are your replies about?

Do you think I'm going to track down Jayer or something like that?

Like knowing this info will be enough to know who the hell he his in a world where there are probably millions who fit this vague description of him. Give me a break.

I don't understand what the problem is with knowing MINOR details about a poster... especially about someone who is sharing his stories with others. Maybe I just want to know if he can relate to me. I mean you don't really want to take dating advice from Brad Bit, do you? If so, rest assured that you will not have similar results as him if you look nothing like him.

Brad Pitt's midget butler?
 

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Thanks for replying, but I'm done with this thread.

Have a good evening.. if you're in the states.
 

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sosocool thanks for taking interest in my thread. That journal was one of the best things I have ever done in my life. Feel free to pm me. Also feel free to comment on that actual approach thread if you have any questions or just want to make observations/statements...
 

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sosocool said:
Thanks for replying, but I'm done with this thread.

Have a good evening.. if you're in the states.
Dude, just ignore that guy. He's never started a thread, and all his replies are just one-liner attempts to be glib and disrespectful. Read as: just a troll.
 
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