"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jayer and everyone else - I need your recommendations

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I'm currently reading Jayer's Approach Journal and it's very entertaining and insightful, and he seems to be honest about his DJ experiences. I'm a big fan of this forum because of it. I was wondering if any other DJ has started an Approach Journal like Jayer's. Any recommendations would be appreciated. Oh, and Jayer if you're reading this.. How tall are you? What's your weight? What color is your skin? What color are your eyes and hair? What do you look like in other words. I'd like to paint a picture of you as it'll make your stories a lot more interesting.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sosocool said:
I'm currently reading Jayer's Approach Journal and it's very entertaining and insightful, and he seems to be honest about his DJ experiences. I'm a big fan of this forum because of it. I was wondering if any other DJ has started an Approach Journal like Jayer's. Any recommendations would be appreciated. Oh, and Jayer if you're reading this.. How tall are you? What's your weight? What color is your skin? What color are your eyes and hair? What do you look like in other words. I'd like to paint a picture of you as it'll make your stories a lot more interesting.

I'll just...I'll just leave this alone.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
I'll just...I'll just leave this alone.

Oh pretty please don't do it otherwise I'll be soooo destroyed!

Fuvk off.

What is your reply suppose to mean anyway?

Are you so delusional with seduction material that you actually believe that looks (yes, skin color and height included) does not have ANYTHING to do with how a woman responds with attraction. Well sorry to break it to you, but IT DOES.

For everyone who has just been destroyed or who has just been overwhelmed with chronic depression from hearing the news don't feel so bad. It is a very SMALL part of the seduction, but it is a factor nonetheless. I believe the biggest factor that will determine success with women is in how you view the world, yourself, and women (your belief and attitude) and what emotions you feel when you are around women. At least in my experience women have been like sharks to blood with emotions. They can sense what you're feeling from a mile away. I'm a short, dark man but when I've been under the influence of the right emotions (it's like a high) women (white, black, latin... color was no issue) have literally gravitated towards me and approaching and meeting them has been so easy. But because I am bi-polar it is really hard for me to always be under that one incredible state that makes meeting women so easy for me.

Anyway, sorry if I offended anyone but sometimes the truth just hurts.
 

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sosocool said:
Oh pretty please don't do it otherwise I'll be soooo destroyed!

Fuvk off.

What is your reply suppose to mean anyway?

Are you so delusional with seduction material that you actually believe that looks (yes, skin color and height included) does not have ANYTHING to do with how a woman responds with attraction. Well sorry to break it to you, but IT DOES.

For everyone who has just been destroyed or who has just been overwhelmed with chronic depression from hearing the news don't feel so bad. It is a very SMALL part of the seduction, but it is a factor nonetheless. I believe the biggest factor that will determine success with women is in how you view the world, yourself, and women (your belief and attitude) and what emotions you feel when you are around women. At least in my experience women have been like sharks to blood with emotions. They can sense what you're feeling from a mile away. I'm a short, dark man but when I've been under the influence of the right emotions (it's like a high) women have literally gravitated towards me and approaching and meeting them has been so easy. But because I am bi-polar it is really hard for me to always be under that one incredible state that makes meeting women so easy for me.

Anyway, sorry if I offended anyone but sometimes the truth just hurts.
If you don't have Jayer's height, weight, or skin/eye color, then what are you gonna do?
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
If you don't have Jayer's height, weight, or skin/eye color, then what are you gonna do?
What do you mean what am I going to do without this info?

nothing. I'm just going to continue reading his cool journal but without knowing what character looks like. Do you prefer your stories with a faceless character?

Again, what are your replies about?

Do you think I'm going to track down Jayer or something like that?

Like knowing this info will be enough to know who the hell he his in a world where there are probably millions who fit this vague description of him. Give me a break.

I don't understand what the problem is with knowing MINOR details about a poster... especially about someone who is sharing his stories with others. Maybe I just want to know if he can relate to me. I mean you don't really want to take dating advice from Brad Pitt, do you? If so, rest assured that you will not have similar results as him if you look nothing like him.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sosocool said:
What do you mean what am I going to do without this info?

nothing. I'm just going to continue reading his cool journal but without knowing what character looks like. Do you prefer your stories with a faceless character, or with?

Again, what are your replies about?

Do you think I'm going to track down Jayer or something like that?

Like knowing this info will be enough to know who the hell he his in a world where there are probably millions who fit this vague description of him. Give me a break.

I don't understand what the problem is with knowing MINOR details about a poster... especially about someone who is sharing his stories with others. Maybe I just want to know if he can relate to me. I mean you don't really want to take dating advice from Brad Bit, do you? If so, rest assured that you will not have similar results as him if you look nothing like him.

Brad Pitt's midget butler?
 

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Thanks for replying, but I'm done with this thread.

Have a good evening.. if you're in the states.
 

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sosocool thanks for taking interest in my thread. That journal was one of the best things I have ever done in my life. Feel free to pm me. Also feel free to comment on that actual approach thread if you have any questions or just want to make observations/statements...
 

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sosocool said:
Thanks for replying, but I'm done with this thread.

Have a good evening.. if you're in the states.
Dude, just ignore that guy. He's never started a thread, and all his replies are just one-liner attempts to be glib and disrespectful. Read as: just a troll.
 
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