"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Got a 2nd date today . We walked around dwtn and had ice cream and then nIghtmarket. I did touch on her and she reject it and later 10 min later touch arm on shoulder arm on waist and still while we walking. she tell me she got a bf. I ask her why she meets me and she says as friends. She shows me pic of her and her bf. what a waste of time today. Should have went to poker
She just meet me as a friend.
She is a Japanese foreigner 4 weeks in Vancouver

I ask her why u don't like me and she said yes but as friend. I don't need a friend I dont need bf

She said u look elsewhere but not me. Great u go out with me for nothing. .


She said she don't need bf but just friend


Ur thoughts and advice. Also I'm Chinese. I got feeling Jp girls don't like other Asian guys
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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she probably was using you to keep her company while she was away from her bf.
 
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I think you are right that most japs arent into other asians but nothing is written in stone.

Move on; learn from this experience. Keep trying dont give up :)
 
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What part of

I don't need a boyfriend, I like you as a friend

you didn't understand?


What can't you guys just enjoy a woman's company as a HUMAN BEING every once in a while , instead of seeing them as walking holes to be drilled ALL THE TIME ?
 
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Boilermaker said:
What part of

I don't need a boyfriend, I like you as a friend

you didn't understand?


What can't you guys just enjoy a woman's company as a HUMAN BEING every once in a while , instead of seeing them as walking holes to be drilled ALL THE TIME ?
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She's not just a HUMAN BEING...she's a girl that he was on a 1-on-1 date with. Well...he thought it was a date, anyway.

Your argument is coming out of left field.

This isn't a discussion on female friends. This is a discussion on a guy getting friendzoned midway through his 2nd time hanging out with her. It's not like they were old high school buddies or something.

Having female friends = fine.

Finding out that some girl waited until your 2nd "date" to mention her boyfriend = NOT fine

If she wanted to keep things friendly (like a "human being" as you say), she could have mentioned the boyfriend from day 1.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ever notice how Asian chicks are always with a dorky white guy? This is something I've noticed for years. Cut your losses, man Asian girls are pretty hard to game unless they are very Americanized. That's just MY opinion.
 
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