"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Japanese foreigner waste my to

joe45

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Japanese foreigner waste my time
Got a 2nd date today . We walked around dwtn and had ice cream and then nIghtmarket. I did touch on her and she reject it and later 10 min later touch arm on shoulder arm on waist and still while we walking. she tell me she got a bf. I ask her why she meets me and she says as friends. She shows me pic of her and her bf. what a waste of time today. Should have went to poker
She just meet me as a friend.
She is a Japanese foreigner 4 weeks in Vancouver

I ask her why u don't like me and she said yes but as friend. I don't need a friend I dont need bf

She said u look elsewhere but not me. Great u go out with me for nothing. .


She said she don't need bf but just friend


Ur thoughts and advice. Also I'm Chinese. I got feeling Jp girls don't like other Asian guys
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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foreverAFC

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she probably was using you to keep her company while she was away from her bf.
 

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I think you are right that most japs arent into other asians but nothing is written in stone.

Move on; learn from this experience. Keep trying dont give up :)
 

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What part of

I don't need a boyfriend, I like you as a friend

you didn't understand?


What can't you guys just enjoy a woman's company as a HUMAN BEING every once in a while , instead of seeing them as walking holes to be drilled ALL THE TIME ?
 

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Boilermaker said:
What part of

I don't need a boyfriend, I like you as a friend

you didn't understand?


What can't you guys just enjoy a woman's company as a HUMAN BEING every once in a while , instead of seeing them as walking holes to be drilled ALL THE TIME ?
She's not just a HUMAN BEING...she's a girl that he was on a 1-on-1 date with. Well...he thought it was a date, anyway.

Your argument is coming out of left field.

This isn't a discussion on female friends. This is a discussion on a guy getting friendzoned midway through his 2nd time hanging out with her. It's not like they were old high school buddies or something.

Having female friends = fine.

Finding out that some girl waited until your 2nd "date" to mention her boyfriend = NOT fine

If she wanted to keep things friendly (like a "human being" as you say), she could have mentioned the boyfriend from day 1.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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VladPatton

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Ever notice how Asian chicks are always with a dorky white guy? This is something I've noticed for years. Cut your losses, man Asian girls are pretty hard to game unless they are very Americanized. That's just MY opinion.
 
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