You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well you could try... I'm gonna rank them to my preference.Master Bates said:
Well Nagoya is in Aichi-ken, personally I think it's like any mid-sized Japanese city. It has some old culture like Nagoya castle. If are interested in Tokyo and Yokohama I wouldn't really recommend Nagoya. Almost every Japanese city is the same once you get out of Tokyo. Only a hand full is different, IMO the most America or Gaijin friendly places are in Tokyo, Yokohama and Saitama.Master Bates said:
Just out of curiosity, what is it about Saitama that makes you mention it out of all other cities in Japan? I ask because you rank it up there with Tokyo and Yokohama. Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well just like Yokohama it's like an extension to Tokyo. It's very urban but it's much cheaper to live there. Some parts are that are near the river are suburban. It really has a laid back feel to it. It only takes about 10 min to get into Tokyo. If I was a broke college student and couldn't live in Tokyo, I would pick Saitama or Yokohama since it's just like living in Tokyo. Saitama has all these new construction projects too, it's gonna be one of the hot cities soon. Saitama city is new, they started construction in 2004. The neighborhood are NICE, it's like a really cool neighborhood in Minnesota. New saitama city is the sh*t, it's very Americanized. You should def check it out.Master Bates said:Bumping again.
-edit- I was looking at a list of cities by population that screwed me up, I thought saitama city was much lower than it is. Still, I'm interested.
http://rover.up.seesaa.net/image/83j83b83N83V83e83B96E98Ci82P.jpgMaster Bates said:
Are you a car enthusiast? You are in for some huge fun! They tolerate zero drunk driving, but other than that it's like driving in Germany. It's awesome, paved streets and nice cars. Government set it so every car has to get a minimum of 30 miles per gallon. The underground and night driving is the best part IMO. Also going to clubs and strip clubs are cheap compared to the U.S. I would still advice getting sh*t faced before going to clubs since you can buy handles for 10-20 bucks at any supermarket. You can be drunk or high in public and as long as you aren't harming yourself or other people the cops will leave you alone.Master Bates said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You can get high in public without getting hassled? I've heard the opposite- that they're extremely anal about drugs there, including weed.Nip/Tuck said:
Where did you hear that? You are allowed to grow marijuana if you get a permit. I highly doubt 90% of the public even knows what weed smells like. They got head shops (Freak Brothers Roppongi) on main streets... granted not a lot of people smoke weed there, but drug use is pretty huge in Japan. Especially Tokyo, ecstasy, coke and speed are pretty big because of the Yakuza and rave/ clubs.Master Bates said:
whats up with you, hyori lee and korean chicks?? you got a kimchi fetish or something??I love Hyori Lee said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Lol!Nip/Tuck said:
Brown / Curry Fever = Arabic or middle easternmichaelhctam said:Lol!
Yellow Fever = Asians
Jungle Fever = Africans.
What is it called for Arabic or White girls?
