"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jahidi's Workout and Diet Journal

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TUESDAY

Incline Bench Press 3 x 5
155 x 5
165 x 5 PR
165 x 5

Calling it a PR because it's the best I've done using full range of motion.

Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 10
65 x 9
65 x 8
65 x 8

Military Press 3 x 8
85 x 12
85 x 10
85 x 8

Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10

Russian Twists 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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THURSDAY

Squat 3 x 5
255 x 5 PR
255 x 5
255 x 5

Hyperextensions 3 x 10
75 x 10 PR
75 x 10
75 x 10

Dumbbell Row 4 x 6
85 x 6
85 x 6
85 x 6
85 x 6

Dumbbell Curl 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8

Leg Press Calfs 3 x 15
210 x 15
220 x 15 PR
220 x 15
 

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SATURDAY

I forgot that the gym closes at 6 on Saturdays, and I showed up at about 5:30 so my workout got cut short (it usually takes me about an hour to get through everything). I did the two bench presses and then I had about 5 minutes left and the power racks were all taken so I skipped military press and did triceps instead.

Barbell Bench Press 3 x 5
175 x 5
175 x 5
175 x 4

Not counting the last rep of the last set because my spotter didn't know how to spot and helped when it wasn't necessary. Not sure if I could have got the rep out on my own.

Incline Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8

Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
 

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TUESDAY

Deadlift 3 x 5
315 x 5
315 x 5
315 x 5

Got it, and it was noticeably easier than the last 2 tries. On to 320...

Leg Press 2 x 10
360 x 10
380 x 10 PR

Chin-ups 4 x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6

Hammer Curls 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8

Leg Press Calfs 3 x 15
230 x 15 PR
230 x 15
230 x 15

My weight is hovering around 140-141 right now btw, so I've gained just over 10 pounds so far.
 

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Whats that diet looking like
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Diet is going okay, I'm doing the simple starting diet but I've been slacking a bit. I need to eat more veggies and I sometimes miss the 6th meal in the diet because I'm too full and just go to bed. And I've never tried drinking olive oil yet.

I'm eating about 3500 calories per day, sometimes more if I'm hungry but I tend to get full easily and struggle to finish my meals.



7am - Wake up
7:30am - Shake (2 scoops whey, 4 raw eggs, 3/4 cup oats, 500ml milk)
10am - Banana (this is just a quick break at work so I can only eat something small)
12pm - Beef, potatoes, veggies
4pm - Shake ((2 scoops whey, 4 raw eggs, 500ml milk)
7pm - Beef, (I sometimes have veggies with it but I'm slacking with eating veggies. I know I need to eat more of them.)
9pm - Same shake as above
10pm - Chicken (this is the meal I sometimes miss)
11pm - Bed
 

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jahidi said:
Diet is going okay, I'm doing the simple starting diet but I've been slacking a bit. I need to eat more veggies and I sometimes miss the 6th meal in the diet because I'm too full and just go to bed. And I've never tried drinking olive oil yet.

I'm eating about 3500 calories per day, sometimes more if I'm hungry but I tend to get full easily and struggle to finish my meals.



7am - Wake up
7:30am - Shake (2 scoops whey, 4 raw eggs, 3/4 cup oats, 500ml milk)
10am - Banana (this is just a quick break at work so I can only eat something small)
12pm - Beef, potatoes, veggies
4pm - Shake ((2 scoops whey, 4 raw eggs, 500ml milk)
7pm - Beef, (I sometimes have veggies with it but I'm slacking with eating veggies. I know I need to eat more of them.)
9pm - Same shake as above
10pm - Chicken (this is the meal I sometimes miss)
11pm - Bed
Do you work everyday? You could do something called carb cycling which may make things easier for you. It can be setup many ways, for you i'd say 3high carb days, 2 moderate carb days and 2 low carb days. Its a lot to write out here just let me know if your interested i could set you something up.
 

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I work Monday-Friday 9-5. Just an easy desk job to pay the tuition for when I go back to university next month. By all means if you think carb cycling would be good for my situation, tell me what's involved and I'll do it.
 
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