Hello fellow Djs and Djs in training.
I've realized I need to feel at least something for a girl before I can be attracted to her in a way that makes me want to have sex with.
This something doesnt need to be love, or extreme like, it can even be a feeling that says to me "hey this girls cool and would make a nice friend" or "shes mad chill and I can totally talk to her about things I like" Like I can completely friendzone a girl but still sleep with her if shes got something attractive about her personality.
But lets say the girl is super attractive, if our personalities dont click, or something about her turns me off, I have no urge to sleep with her at all. Which seems in total opposite to many of the guys here, and some of my friends. One of them whos said to me "dude sometimes I dont care and I just turn them around and get work in" even if the girls like a 5 =/
But, what started me thinking on this was a recent date of mine. Me and the girl get along ok, shes chill, and shes cute and attractive(7). However there was not a big personality click on my end, nothing that really grabbed me. Im thinking to myself "dude why do you have no urge to do anything with this girl? shes attractive you idiot" She was obviously into me, and she did not do anything bad, but then I started thinking back to all the women ive hooked up with recently.
They either had good girl-game themselves (mad confidence as well) or were total betchs to me and that clicked something with me as I was an Azshole right back. And this dynamic I loved with my ex. We even hated each other at first and then actually talked through a mutual friend later and realized we really dug one another
Which is why when me and my boys go out and they point out a hot chick I shrug it off as just another girl. Unless shes got something about her demeanor that jumps out at you. Ive never been able to just screw on looks alone which I think sets me apart from most of my gender.
I feel like I need to be impressed. I feel "why should I always be the one doing the impressing?" I think to myself "can any girl here tonight really make a something jump up inside me that says shes gonna bring some good times"
Whenever I have gotten into situations based solely on looks I lack a fire and passion within myself and get bored. And then I feel like I wasted my time.
What I wanna know is, any other dudes her like this?
I've realized I need to feel at least something for a girl before I can be attracted to her in a way that makes me want to have sex with.
This something doesnt need to be love, or extreme like, it can even be a feeling that says to me "hey this girls cool and would make a nice friend" or "shes mad chill and I can totally talk to her about things I like" Like I can completely friendzone a girl but still sleep with her if shes got something attractive about her personality.
But lets say the girl is super attractive, if our personalities dont click, or something about her turns me off, I have no urge to sleep with her at all. Which seems in total opposite to many of the guys here, and some of my friends. One of them whos said to me "dude sometimes I dont care and I just turn them around and get work in" even if the girls like a 5 =/
But, what started me thinking on this was a recent date of mine. Me and the girl get along ok, shes chill, and shes cute and attractive(7). However there was not a big personality click on my end, nothing that really grabbed me. Im thinking to myself "dude why do you have no urge to do anything with this girl? shes attractive you idiot" She was obviously into me, and she did not do anything bad, but then I started thinking back to all the women ive hooked up with recently.
They either had good girl-game themselves (mad confidence as well) or were total betchs to me and that clicked something with me as I was an Azshole right back. And this dynamic I loved with my ex. We even hated each other at first and then actually talked through a mutual friend later and realized we really dug one another
Which is why when me and my boys go out and they point out a hot chick I shrug it off as just another girl. Unless shes got something about her demeanor that jumps out at you. Ive never been able to just screw on looks alone which I think sets me apart from most of my gender.
I feel like I need to be impressed. I feel "why should I always be the one doing the impressing?" I think to myself "can any girl here tonight really make a something jump up inside me that says shes gonna bring some good times"
Whenever I have gotten into situations based solely on looks I lack a fire and passion within myself and get bored. And then I feel like I wasted my time.
What I wanna know is, any other dudes her like this?