"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I've never been loved like this before"

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Qmanchoo

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Care to give any context? That can mean different things based on how long you have been seeing a girl...to the way in which she said it (insecure look, excited, happy, that zoned out mode where they get a "deer into headlights" look)...to when and where...

From my personal experience...I'd say she may have had "not so nice" boyfriends in the past and wonders why you're treating her so well, she my not think she deserves it and it may confuse her a little, but she's attracted to you and as a result you can get away with it without her seeing you as a not-so-sexy nice guy...at the moment anyway.

but without context that my not hold much water.
 
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I didn't give context deliberately because I wanted to see what comes out without a full picture first of all. Sometimes a lack of information can give a clearer picture.

It was a while ago while I was in a relationship.

It just jumped into my head because I wondered if it challenges the DJ side of looking at things, or if it's negative. I just thought, is it a good thing?

Because of this I feel thinking nice guy vs bad boy could be an error. Perhaps both elements are seporate but not exclusive. Sure a badboy may be bad at good guy stuff and vise versa but you can get the best of both worlds.

i.e you don't have to choose to be a badboy or a good guy

? agree ? because if so that goes against the grain of a lot of intferances made on this site...
 
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Jesus Holy $#!+ Christ. ASK HER WHAT SHE MEANS. She's obviously wanting to tell you about how you're different from the last guy who thumped her muffin, so get the dope. NEVER let a comment like that slip by.
 
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It means she's really happy at the time.

OR

She's been happy with you many consecutive times.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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