"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I've jumped the friend zone.. now what?

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After some 20 odd years of zero luck with women, the boards and a 6 month long program of weight lifting has helped turn me around. After this past summer, where I did nothing but work out and talk to girls, I came back to college. One of my long time friends, who I've known since freshman year (junior now) was suddenly, surprise surprise, attratcted to me. I've known her long enough to make sure shes not crazy, and she spent the summer working out as well, so she's become quite fit.
That was perhaps two months ago, and we've been dating since then. This is my first LTR and I'm a little at a loss for what to do to keep her intrest up. I'm still thowing out C&F, working out, and making sure she knows my school work is more importent then her. But I'm really unsure how much I should be seeing her at this point. In the past, when we were platonic, we saw a good deal of each other - 5 -7 days a weak, sometimes more then once a day. I've scaled back by a good deal now that we're dating, but I'm still seeing her 2-3 times a week.
Because we're both busy with clubs and schoolwork, the only real time I get to see her is the weekends. For most of the past two months the pattern has been to go out with my male friends during the night, and then meet up with her later and spend the night at her place, eat breakfast/brunch with her and some other friends of ours and then head home. It doesn't feel too much to me like a pattern yet, but I'm worried that sex 3-4 times over the weekend + 2 nights spent in her room is too much too soon.
Was I right to scale the amount I see her back? is the bulk of the weekend too much time for a 2 month old relationship? How do I keep the relationship alive and exciting for both of us despite this 2 year history?

She constanly tells me how much she likes me, and thinks like gets goosebumps when I touch her. So I must be doing something right. I'm still exicted that my long dry spell is broken. At first I was just looking for some practice, but I feel like I"m starting to catch oneitus and I'd like to keep this from crashing and burning
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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GET THA FUCC OUT AND RUUUUUUUUN RUUUUUUUUUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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This girl sounds pretty clingy... Reminds me of a someone... but look. You're spending way too much time with her. You've only been seeing each other for 2 months and you're already calling it an LTR. I wouldn't call a girl my girl friend untill the 3rd month. But to see her 5-7 times a week. Whoa... step back for a second. The girls that you knew and are suddenly on your jock are the ones you have to watch out for. They're crazy. :p And don't feel obligated to be with her. (don't let the ***** controll you, lol) If you really want her on your nuts, just see her only a few times a week, and don't make it every weekend or always on wednesday for example. Change that **** up.
 

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(Dont take my advice. I was just joking around about the friend zone)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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U're probably swoll... you can get any girl you want... don't let her catch you so easily! be a challenge
 

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hmm. I'm only currently seeing her 2-3 times a week now. 5-7 was back when we were platonic. We are most definalty not now. :D I don't think shes too clingly - she lives an active life outside of me and really doesn't show any signs of beeing needy. I see what you say about it being too early to call it a ltr though; thats a good point. I guess I didn't make myself all too clear though - things are really good betwean us right now, I'm just trying to make sure that I don't end up *****wipped, or getting dumped out of the blue.
 
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