"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've hit the turning point

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Yesterday I hit breaking point, I've decided that I don't want to be the nice guy anymore it's taken 18 years to realise this, and 4 months lurking on this website to really get me going.

It happened with me sitting in an English class with 7 girls and a teacher. There are no other guys in my english class anymore just generally high quality girls, two HB8, two HB7 and two HB6 with one girl a HB2 who doesn't talk to anyone. So I was sitting there talking with these girls and then one of them starts talking about her guy problem, getting followed around at a nightclub and once she started about a guy they all did.

And then it happened, i even saw it coming and still did nothing. One by one each of them asked me what I thought about their particular guy. i answered with the answer i thought they wanted to hear.:mad: I realised I was being the emotional tampon, and it has disgusted me, i don't ever want to be in that situation again, surrounded by good quality girls and instead of leading them and being alpha being their little emotional buffer.
1-0 to the DJ in me finally waking up
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The road is long and dificult. The only thing i can tell you is dont give up. I dont know how many times i could of given up but i didnt. And it feels so ****ing good.
 
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I'm in the Mood

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Lol, that would have been a perfect opportunity for a ****y joke!

The possibilities are endless...:D
 
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My friend, this is where all the fun begins.

It is going to get tough however the outcome of the process is f****** fantastic.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thanks for the support guys, and i'll definatly try and think of something better to say if it happens again ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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