"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've had enough of my local clubs with my friends..

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I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Send me some info via PM about yourself if you like (Age, etc), maybe we can arrange something. I'm also in London and looking to start sarging since I'm fresh out of a LTR.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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Teach them the ways! I managed to turn all of my friends into PUA's

I brought them to a book store once, they all bought books. I didn't even tell them to.
 

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Try showing them the way and if that fails then just find new friends. Don't let them hold you back whatever you do.


If you want to grow as a person that means you will become a different person to your friends. Like attracts like and since you become different both yourself and your friends will sense this.


You don't have to fall out with them and cut all contact, it's more of a drift away.
 

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dav27 said:
I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.
Time to find a "lair" of other PUAs. Trying to teach your existing friends "pickup" is a sure way to lose many of them, or flat out get ostracized from your current social circle. Best thing many people find is to keep both aspects of their lives separate until people start seeing the positive changes and inquire on their own.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dav27 said:
I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.

I use to always be about having a Wingman
But this year alone, I realized that I'm better by myself
I have the fundamentals now, when it comes to approaching women.

I think if you go out with a "i-dont-give-a-f" attitude and just have fun you will be good. Going out solo is what you make it.

My best friend isn't clubbing no more he has a girl, so when he goes out he just chills, he doesn't even wing for me.

Most of my guy friends have such a different mentality when it comes to pick up as I do. They always stand for a long time, then approach. I approach at random, I'll open up any set. Sometimes I open up a set, without even thinking(it takes practice, confidence and a little alcohol lol)

Do ya thing man!
 
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