"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've had enough of my local clubs with my friends..

dav27

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I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Send me some info via PM about yourself if you like (Age, etc), maybe we can arrange something. I'm also in London and looking to start sarging since I'm fresh out of a LTR.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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Teach them the ways! I managed to turn all of my friends into PUA's

I brought them to a book store once, they all bought books. I didn't even tell them to.
 

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Try showing them the way and if that fails then just find new friends. Don't let them hold you back whatever you do.


If you want to grow as a person that means you will become a different person to your friends. Like attracts like and since you become different both yourself and your friends will sense this.


You don't have to fall out with them and cut all contact, it's more of a drift away.
 

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dav27 said:
I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.
Time to find a "lair" of other PUAs. Trying to teach your existing friends "pickup" is a sure way to lose many of them, or flat out get ostracized from your current social circle. Best thing many people find is to keep both aspects of their lives separate until people start seeing the positive changes and inquire on their own.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dav27 said:
I've got to the point where i feel they're holding me back. My friends don't go out to pick up or even meet new people, i need to find some like-minded people. I'm thinking next weekend (maybe even during this week) i'm going to travel on my own to the city or somewhere i've never been before and see how i can do.

I also need to decide whether pubs, bars or clubs will be better - or maybe somewhere entirely different.

Feel free to post encouragement/advice/suggestions/tips/whatever. This is a pretty big step for me so it's all appreciated.

I use to always be about having a Wingman
But this year alone, I realized that I'm better by myself
I have the fundamentals now, when it comes to approaching women.

I think if you go out with a "i-dont-give-a-f" attitude and just have fun you will be good. Going out solo is what you make it.

My best friend isn't clubbing no more he has a girl, so when he goes out he just chills, he doesn't even wing for me.

Most of my guy friends have such a different mentality when it comes to pick up as I do. They always stand for a long time, then approach. I approach at random, I'll open up any set. Sometimes I open up a set, without even thinking(it takes practice, confidence and a little alcohol lol)

Do ya thing man!
 
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