"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've got a question about GFs and all that..

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Like, when you want to go out with a girl, do you just ask "will you go out with me?" or what?

Thats what I do and its anyone's guess from there...

what's the etiquette on asking her out or getting her to be your girlfriend?
 

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A lot of people say to just go on dates with her and eventually just ask whether or not you two are exclusive...I like a little more security than that, and in HS people are a lot more about the whole boyfriend girlfriend scene instead of going out with someone and getting to know them before starting something... I generally think of a creative way to do it, just so it stands out. My last girlfriend, I made a note with crayon that said "I think you're neat and have pretty hair, wanna go out with me?" with the wrong hang so it looked like a little kid's writing, then put the yes no and maybe boxes. Worked perfectly and she put it on her wall, all her friends thought it was the greatest thing ever etc etc.
 

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I usually make it sound like she's tagging along to somewhere i'm already going. e.g.

Me : I'm going to the !pool hall!, you should tag along, you'd enjoy it.

OR, i'd be forceful about it. e.g

Me: I'm going to !pool hall! and you're coming, i'll pick you up at 7.
 

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Originally posted by jonny football hero
I usually make it sound like she's tagging along to somewhere i'm already going. e.g.

Me : I'm going to the !pool hall!, you should tag along, you'd enjoy it.

OR, i'd be forceful about it. e.g

Me: I'm going to !pool hall! and you're coming, i'll pick you up at 7.
Althogh I dont have a problem with asking girls out, I found this thread pretty funny! But also a very good idea, thanks for the help!
 

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Asking a girl to be your girlfriend is probably not the best idea. But getting a girlfriend in high school is simple. Just date her a couple of times and make your move (kiss her). She will take care of the rest :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by jonny football hero


Me: I'm going to !pool hall! and you're coming, i'll pick you up at 7.
I got a similar idea from my friend who uses that kind of line on me when I am wavering between which group of friends to hang out with for the night.(different groups because each group comes from a different school)

Now I use that to ask chicks out too. I'm not forceful when I'm asking her out for the first time though. Usually the first time I tell her to "tag along" or "you should come with me to _____"
 

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The way you want to handle this is to treat her like your girlfriend, but not quite. Take her on dates, kiss her, make out with her, just progress in the relationship. If she has any romantic interest towards you, she will ask you to be her boyfriend. It's one of the best ways to see her actual interest in you.

Some girls will feel slutty if you are treating them like a girlfriend, but there is no exclusive tag to it. If she is really interested, she'll ask. If she isn't, she won't.
 

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After a couple of dates if you want an exclusive relationship make a joke about it.

Him: You, me, bowling alley this saturday at noon. Exclusive members ONLY, so feel entitled.

Her: blah blah blah


If she doesn't get that, then she's blonde and you'll need to directly say it to her.
 
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