"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ive gone full circle...

Tekniq

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I've reached an odd point in my life. I used to have serious control of what was going on in my life, i was the man where ever i was. Thanks to this site, almost a year ago i got into a relationship with a girl who at the time to me was a HB8.5 and i was still hitting on girls whenever i wanted to.
Alas good times are now few and far between, me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument and i had to break up with her because i knew it wasn't worth my time anymore even though i still "loved" her. And so now its over... but what now? I tried to go back to my old DJ self but i feel like i totally AFCed out over the time that i got too comfortable with my girlfriend and having a girl that gorgeous around me all the time. I tried to reread some of the old epic posts i have saved and whatnot but still nothing quite does the trick anymore.

In short:
I lost my touch, my spirit, my confidence and pretty much everything i had that let me be an awesome DJ..

I think i want to really do the bootcamp since i never really did it from the start. But i just can't waste time and do it in march. Is there anyway i could do it by myself? Or start earlier, i believe i saw a packet floating around somewhere?

Is there anything inspiring that anyone could really tell me / show me? I mean i realize this is very broad and a big question to ask of you guys but i am seriously at rock bottom at the moment. Truly a shadow of my old self.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Deadly_Ripped

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I felt the same way after both recent LTR's I was in, and the only way I got over it was exposure to social scenes again. That built my confidence back up, and low and behold I've now met someone amazing.
 

Buddha_Mind

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I think it is entirely normal to have some down time after the end of a long term relationship. It takes time to heal a bit, and redefine our self-image, lacking the things that the other person provided in life.

Give it some time, and keep working on socializing :)
 

moneyisking

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That's a huge downside. At one moment you feel like you can hit on and tap any azz, but few hrs or even minutes later, you feel less confident. Being the REAL MAN who is not affected by anything external but himself is extremely difficult thing. That's why we're here, that's why we are keep trying. Stay strong bro.
 

Tekniq

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Thanks for the awesome advice guys! Though it would be really nice if anyone could help me out with my first two questions that i wrote in the "in short" section.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Max Power

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Obviously something happened in this relationship that has shaken your confidence. I'm just probing for clues. What was the huge arguement with your GF about?
 
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