"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ive gone full circle...

Tekniq

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I've reached an odd point in my life. I used to have serious control of what was going on in my life, i was the man where ever i was. Thanks to this site, almost a year ago i got into a relationship with a girl who at the time to me was a HB8.5 and i was still hitting on girls whenever i wanted to.
Alas good times are now few and far between, me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument and i had to break up with her because i knew it wasn't worth my time anymore even though i still "loved" her. And so now its over... but what now? I tried to go back to my old DJ self but i feel like i totally AFCed out over the time that i got too comfortable with my girlfriend and having a girl that gorgeous around me all the time. I tried to reread some of the old epic posts i have saved and whatnot but still nothing quite does the trick anymore.

In short:
I lost my touch, my spirit, my confidence and pretty much everything i had that let me be an awesome DJ..

I think i want to really do the bootcamp since i never really did it from the start. But i just can't waste time and do it in march. Is there anyway i could do it by myself? Or start earlier, i believe i saw a packet floating around somewhere?

Is there anything inspiring that anyone could really tell me / show me? I mean i realize this is very broad and a big question to ask of you guys but i am seriously at rock bottom at the moment. Truly a shadow of my old self.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Deadly_Ripped

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I felt the same way after both recent LTR's I was in, and the only way I got over it was exposure to social scenes again. That built my confidence back up, and low and behold I've now met someone amazing.
 

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I think it is entirely normal to have some down time after the end of a long term relationship. It takes time to heal a bit, and redefine our self-image, lacking the things that the other person provided in life.

Give it some time, and keep working on socializing :)
 

moneyisking

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That's a huge downside. At one moment you feel like you can hit on and tap any azz, but few hrs or even minutes later, you feel less confident. Being the REAL MAN who is not affected by anything external but himself is extremely difficult thing. That's why we're here, that's why we are keep trying. Stay strong bro.
 

Tekniq

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Thanks for the awesome advice guys! Though it would be really nice if anyone could help me out with my first two questions that i wrote in the "in short" section.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Max Power

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Obviously something happened in this relationship that has shaken your confidence. I'm just probing for clues. What was the huge arguement with your GF about?
 
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