"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ive gone full circle...

Tekniq

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I've reached an odd point in my life. I used to have serious control of what was going on in my life, i was the man where ever i was. Thanks to this site, almost a year ago i got into a relationship with a girl who at the time to me was a HB8.5 and i was still hitting on girls whenever i wanted to.
Alas good times are now few and far between, me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument and i had to break up with her because i knew it wasn't worth my time anymore even though i still "loved" her. And so now its over... but what now? I tried to go back to my old DJ self but i feel like i totally AFCed out over the time that i got too comfortable with my girlfriend and having a girl that gorgeous around me all the time. I tried to reread some of the old epic posts i have saved and whatnot but still nothing quite does the trick anymore.

In short:
I lost my touch, my spirit, my confidence and pretty much everything i had that let me be an awesome DJ..

I think i want to really do the bootcamp since i never really did it from the start. But i just can't waste time and do it in march. Is there anyway i could do it by myself? Or start earlier, i believe i saw a packet floating around somewhere?

Is there anything inspiring that anyone could really tell me / show me? I mean i realize this is very broad and a big question to ask of you guys but i am seriously at rock bottom at the moment. Truly a shadow of my old self.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Deadly_Ripped

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I felt the same way after both recent LTR's I was in, and the only way I got over it was exposure to social scenes again. That built my confidence back up, and low and behold I've now met someone amazing.
 

Buddha_Mind

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I think it is entirely normal to have some down time after the end of a long term relationship. It takes time to heal a bit, and redefine our self-image, lacking the things that the other person provided in life.

Give it some time, and keep working on socializing :)
 

moneyisking

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That's a huge downside. At one moment you feel like you can hit on and tap any azz, but few hrs or even minutes later, you feel less confident. Being the REAL MAN who is not affected by anything external but himself is extremely difficult thing. That's why we're here, that's why we are keep trying. Stay strong bro.
 

Tekniq

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Thanks for the awesome advice guys! Though it would be really nice if anyone could help me out with my first two questions that i wrote in the "in short" section.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Max Power

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Obviously something happened in this relationship that has shaken your confidence. I'm just probing for clues. What was the huge arguement with your GF about?
 
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