I'm not going to provide many details but to make a long story short... I got mad at a girl who I really like....and come to find out I was actually wrong and now she's pissed at me. We've "made up" but things haven't actually been the same. After being fed up for a while I ended up telling her how I felt about her...well sorta I told her I missed how things were. It took her a while to respond but she said she "somewhat" felt the same way.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I've done it now!
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I suppose this has happened to me many times before, much more when I was an AFC though because the women I spend time with now know I don't take 'girl drama'.
It depends on who the girl is and what you intend to have with her in the future. Do you honestly believe you can change things around and get into a relationship with her? Do you want to be just friends or still go into a relationship with her?
Now, either you said something pretty bad, or she is taking the incident way too seriously. Her comment of saying "she somewhat felt the same way" seems pretty arrogant to me. Just let her know that you are sorry for the way you acted and you would like things to go back to the way it was before, because life is too short to hold grudges and you thought your friendship with her was much stronger, that nothing could come between it. Give her some space, and than wait for her to start talking to you.
I know it may sound non-DJish, but based on the fact that you came to a message board for a problem, I'm just assuming that you are desperate to get things fixed, and what I stated above has worked for me.
Just avoid getting yourself in those types of situations in the future. Also, don't over-do the "sorry", since that is NOT what I am asking you to do, merely just say it once.
Oh yes, one more thing. You made a mistake by saying "you missed how things were." That just is WAY too desperate and by stating that, you are making her the prize. You need to regain your status and power in your relationship with her, until her head gets so big that you will have no chance of bringing her down to your level.
Men make mistakes, and real men acknowledge that they made those mistakes. They apologize, and they move on. Whether the person they hurt decides to forgive them or not, it's their problem, and real men do not care less how they feel.
If you state the above to her and she still reacts in a negative manner towards you, give this girl up. Make her realize what she is missing out on and start talking to new women, the jealousy factor might kick in. Besides, do you really want to "like" a girl that puts out so much drama?
Hope I helped you out, let us know what happens!
It depends on who the girl is and what you intend to have with her in the future. Do you honestly believe you can change things around and get into a relationship with her? Do you want to be just friends or still go into a relationship with her?
Now, either you said something pretty bad, or she is taking the incident way too seriously. Her comment of saying "she somewhat felt the same way" seems pretty arrogant to me. Just let her know that you are sorry for the way you acted and you would like things to go back to the way it was before, because life is too short to hold grudges and you thought your friendship with her was much stronger, that nothing could come between it. Give her some space, and than wait for her to start talking to you.
I know it may sound non-DJish, but based on the fact that you came to a message board for a problem, I'm just assuming that you are desperate to get things fixed, and what I stated above has worked for me.
Just avoid getting yourself in those types of situations in the future. Also, don't over-do the "sorry", since that is NOT what I am asking you to do, merely just say it once.
Oh yes, one more thing. You made a mistake by saying "you missed how things were." That just is WAY too desperate and by stating that, you are making her the prize. You need to regain your status and power in your relationship with her, until her head gets so big that you will have no chance of bringing her down to your level.
Men make mistakes, and real men acknowledge that they made those mistakes. They apologize, and they move on. Whether the person they hurt decides to forgive them or not, it's their problem, and real men do not care less how they feel.
If you state the above to her and she still reacts in a negative manner towards you, give this girl up. Make her realize what she is missing out on and start talking to new women, the jealousy factor might kick in. Besides, do you really want to "like" a girl that puts out so much drama?
Hope I helped you out, let us know what happens!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.