I'm not going to provide many details but to make a long story short... I got mad at a girl who I really like....and come to find out I was actually wrong and now she's pissed at me. We've "made up" but things haven't actually been the same. After being fed up for a while I ended up telling her how I felt about her...well sorta I told her I missed how things were. It took her a while to respond but she said she "somewhat" felt the same way.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I've done it now!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I suppose this has happened to me many times before, much more when I was an AFC though because the women I spend time with now know I don't take 'girl drama'.
It depends on who the girl is and what you intend to have with her in the future. Do you honestly believe you can change things around and get into a relationship with her? Do you want to be just friends or still go into a relationship with her?
Now, either you said something pretty bad, or she is taking the incident way too seriously. Her comment of saying "she somewhat felt the same way" seems pretty arrogant to me. Just let her know that you are sorry for the way you acted and you would like things to go back to the way it was before, because life is too short to hold grudges and you thought your friendship with her was much stronger, that nothing could come between it. Give her some space, and than wait for her to start talking to you.
I know it may sound non-DJish, but based on the fact that you came to a message board for a problem, I'm just assuming that you are desperate to get things fixed, and what I stated above has worked for me.
Just avoid getting yourself in those types of situations in the future. Also, don't over-do the "sorry", since that is NOT what I am asking you to do, merely just say it once.
Oh yes, one more thing. You made a mistake by saying "you missed how things were." That just is WAY too desperate and by stating that, you are making her the prize. You need to regain your status and power in your relationship with her, until her head gets so big that you will have no chance of bringing her down to your level.
Men make mistakes, and real men acknowledge that they made those mistakes. They apologize, and they move on. Whether the person they hurt decides to forgive them or not, it's their problem, and real men do not care less how they feel.
If you state the above to her and she still reacts in a negative manner towards you, give this girl up. Make her realize what she is missing out on and start talking to new women, the jealousy factor might kick in. Besides, do you really want to "like" a girl that puts out so much drama?
Hope I helped you out, let us know what happens!
It depends on who the girl is and what you intend to have with her in the future. Do you honestly believe you can change things around and get into a relationship with her? Do you want to be just friends or still go into a relationship with her?
Now, either you said something pretty bad, or she is taking the incident way too seriously. Her comment of saying "she somewhat felt the same way" seems pretty arrogant to me. Just let her know that you are sorry for the way you acted and you would like things to go back to the way it was before, because life is too short to hold grudges and you thought your friendship with her was much stronger, that nothing could come between it. Give her some space, and than wait for her to start talking to you.
I know it may sound non-DJish, but based on the fact that you came to a message board for a problem, I'm just assuming that you are desperate to get things fixed, and what I stated above has worked for me.
Just avoid getting yourself in those types of situations in the future. Also, don't over-do the "sorry", since that is NOT what I am asking you to do, merely just say it once.
Oh yes, one more thing. You made a mistake by saying "you missed how things were." That just is WAY too desperate and by stating that, you are making her the prize. You need to regain your status and power in your relationship with her, until her head gets so big that you will have no chance of bringing her down to your level.
Men make mistakes, and real men acknowledge that they made those mistakes. They apologize, and they move on. Whether the person they hurt decides to forgive them or not, it's their problem, and real men do not care less how they feel.
If you state the above to her and she still reacts in a negative manner towards you, give this girl up. Make her realize what she is missing out on and start talking to new women, the jealousy factor might kick in. Besides, do you really want to "like" a girl that puts out so much drama?
Hope I helped you out, let us know what happens!
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
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